I'll make this short. I'm sick of thinking about this subject, but I have one more thing to say...
It is much easier just to serve than it is to actually teach self-reliance. It's much easier to hand someone five dollars than it is to sit down with them and teach them how to budget. It is much easier to clean someone's house for them than it is to teach them how to keep up and how to do it. It is much easier to give a man a fish than it is to take the time to teach him how to fish for himself.
Here's how I know: I can make Bria's bed in less than a minute. Getting her to do it herself, and showing her how to do it correctly takes almost a full half hour every day. And that's not even including all of the complaining and whining I have to listen to before we get down to the task at hand. And then there's all of the dilly-dallying and getting sidetracked involved. I'd much rather take the minute and be done with it, but I don't feel like I can do that with a clear conscience.
Yet another example that the right things are often the hard things. Gotta do those darn hard things in order to experience growth.