Sunday, August 28, 2005

Literally adorable

Bria takes after her Daddy. She takes everything 100% literally. I am sure that Joel was just like this at her age...even now, at age 31, he tends to take many things very literally. He has learned obvious nuance by now, but if something new comes along he might misunderstand and be very literal.

Bria really cracks me up with her literalness (is that even a word?). I remember when she was 2 1/2 and we were at a family reunion everyone figured this out. People were "taking off her nose and eating it" left and right...poor child! She was so upset by the whole thing. I finally had to insist everyone stop...yes it's funny and cute, but you are tormenting this poor girl!! She has finally learned the nose trick at age 4 (unlike Chloe who figured it out right away--before she was even 2--and thinks it's hilarious), yet she continues to take life pretty darn literally. Here are just a few recent examples:

I was talking on the phone with my mom and mentioned that I had a ton of laundry to do. What I actually said was, "I have laundry coming out my ears." Pretty soon, Bria was hovering around me, trying to look in my ears. When I asked her what she was doing, she said, "I'm trying to see all the laundry that's in your ears!"

The other day at dinner Joel had a glob of something on his face, so I reached over to wipe it off. Bria asked me what I was doing and I said, "I'm wiping Daddy's face off." Her reply? "Mommy, you didn't wipe his face off...his face is still there!"

And the kicker: She called her Mamah after her first day of Kindergarten. When Mamah asked her if she made any new friends, this was her reply:

"Mamah, you're silly! I didn't make any friends....I don't know how!! Their moms and dads just brought them there! I can't make them!!"

Cutest thing I've heard in years....it's definite though, Bria is literally adorable!

Thursday, August 25, 2005

Released of control

Well, I have been the official "former" Relief Society President for almost two weeks now. It is a strange experience. I haven't quite known what to do with myself since Bria started Kindergarten the day after I was released. That left two huge holes in my normal daily routine.

So...I've gotten a lot of things done that I didn't have time for before. It's kind of nice, but a little empty. I don't really feel useful. I feel out of the loop. And my closest friend in the ward is also pretty close with the new RS President....and she tells me things. And it really has been like handing my baby over to someone else to take care of...even if it is a competent person it is always a little difficult. Because I see and hear things and I think "NO" "You can't do it that way!" But I know I have to let her learn for herself. I have to let go!! Besides, she is not me...she brings other skills and talents to the table. She will never do things exactly how I might have done them, but that doesn't mean she is wrong.

I did get a new calling last night..Visiting Teaching Coordinator. So at least I still have some control over that. It's hard for me to not be in charge after so long getting to call the shots. But I don't really want to be in that position right now. I've really enjoyed the time to really focus on my family and other things I'd like to do. So I have to let the control go. It's okay. Every Relief Society in the world has survived the change of guard and this one will too. The new Pres is awesome...I had lunch with her and my other friend today. She'll be fine. I'll be fine. We'll all be fine.

Sunday, August 21, 2005

How much do I love you?

Just a sweet conversation I had with Bria the other day:

Me: I love you so much, Bria.
B: {holding her arms out wide} Do you love me this much?
Me: Even more than that.
B: Do you love me as much as a house?
Me: Even more than that.
B: Do you love me as much as a swimming pool?
Me: Even more than that.
B: As much as the beach?
Me: Even more than that.
B: As much as the sky?
Me: Even more than that.
B: {Eyes totally incredulous now} Mommy, do you love me as much as a giraffe's neck?
Me: {laughing} Yes, Bria. I love you as much as a giraffe's neck.

Monday, August 15, 2005

Unexpected teaching moments

So Bria was very into watching The Incredibles for a while. We checked it out from the library and she watched it daily for the entire two weeks.

Being the girl who loves to play make-believe that she is, she decided that she was Violet...the one that can turn invisible and make force fields. I am Elastigirl, Joel is Mr. Incredible and Chloe is Jack-Jack. (We don't have a Dash in our family, so Bria keeps asking when we will...). Anyway, sometimes her make believe becomes a little too real, and that is what happened with the super hero scenario. I wasn't allowed to call her Bria...she had to be called Violet. She consistently called the rest of the family by their appointed character names and made up lots of little stories and things that we were required to act out. (Is this kid going to be good in drama, or what?)

Well, Bria has had a little obedience problem lately. Perfectly normal, I am sure, for a kid her age. One day recently I asked her to do something for me and I made the mistake of calling her Bria. Following is a bit of our conversation:

Me: Bria, will you please go put your shoes away?
Bria: I'm not Bria, I'm Violet!
Me: Okay. Violet, will you please go put your shoes away?
Bria: {Looking incredulous} Violet obeys?
Me: Of course she does.
Bria: But she's a superhero! She doesn't have to!

How often does your child give you such a perfect lead in to a great conversation? I was able to use the moment to explain to her about obedience, and that super heroes were good because they were obedient to laws and rules. I even could use the bad guy on Incredibles to illustrate what happens when "superheroes" aren't obedient.

She isn't suddenly magically perfect at obeying, but it has been fun to see what that conversation alone did for her obedience. Made me realize how much you really have to teach whenever the opportunity presents itself, and those unexpected moments are often the very best teaching moments you'll ever have.