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Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Move over, Martha Stewart!

I always have such high hopes of starting each new school year with a bang. A perfectly organized home coupled with a perfectly organized schedule leading to perfectly happy children and even happier parents.

But who am I trying to kid? When have I ever been able to keep to any sort of organization longer than a couple of days? My entire life has been a series of messes punctuated by manic bursts of schedule-making and re-arranging the clutter.

Keeping to any sort of self-inflicted planned agenda is my biggest trial in life. Sure, I could arrive at my classes in college and keep that all sorted out because I had things like grades hanging over my head to motivate me to be there. No, I mean the kind of schedule that many of you moms out there are able to somehow keep to. Like, you know you clean out the fridge every third Tuesday and you somehow manage to get up at the same time each morning and you actually follow a regimented schedule. I try this for a few days and get so frustrated and angry with it that I have to throw it all out the window.

Instead I am a compulsive list-maker. My husband makes fun of me because he finds lists that say things like: Make the bed, clean the desk, pay the bills. Such mundane, daily chores may seem completely obvious to everyone else in the world, but if it's not on my list, I won't do it. I won't remember the task even exists. Seriously. I have the uncanny ability to go sit down at the computer with every intention of emailing person x about issue y and getting up an hour later having done nothing productive, and especially not actually completing what I set out to do.

You know who else has this problem? Bria, that's who. So, she and I together trying to get ready for school in the morning often doesn't work very well. I have to ask her to get dressed, put on her glasses, brush her teeth, choose her breakfast, get her violin out, and put her shoes on so many times each morning that I begin to sound like a broken record. Then she says, "okay!!!!" in the sassiest voice she can muster, goes to do a task and comes back ten minutes later having done nothing productive, and especially not actually completing what she set out to do.

Needless to say, my perfect morning schedule has not been so perfect. Bria left to school today in a horrible mood because she hated the way I did her hair, which was exactly the way she asked for it to be done. Her violin practicing was less than focused, and rife with complaining. I was running around trying to get kids breakfasted, make sure homework was signed off, get lunch made for Bria and change 3 poopy diapers within 10 minutes.

All I can say is this: At least violin has been done every single morning so far this school year. At least I'm feeding my children breakfast. At least I love them.

And, although I'm far from perfect, at least I'm trying.


  1. At least you love them - the best statement in that whole entry! You'd be shocked to realize how many kids come to school each day without knowing that their parents love them.

    You're doing a great job - the first of the school year is a nightmare for everyone I know - EVEN THE MOST ORGANIZED MOMS!!!

    Hope the afternoon feels better. . .

  2. K, everyone has their own way that works... if lists work, then do lists. If anal-retentive-scheduling works, make that work too. ;)
    Anyway, those are my thoughts for what they are worth. :)

  3. You're right, you are trying and that's great. Give yourself a little time to ease back into the madness of schedules. We're still easing into ours as well, and speaking of which, I need to go shower - - that hasn't made it to MY list in 2 days...... Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

  4. And I interrupted your crazy morning for help. Sorry, but I really appreciate it. We made it to the preschool alive and well. I'm positive you're doing a great job!

  5. Your too hard on yourself! Keep in mind that most mother's that have schedules only have one child! So really I have no room to say anything! Other than I think you are great and your girls are cuties!

  6. i think alot about being a kid, and remember very little what state my home was in, but do remember that when i'd come home from school, my mood would be dictated by whatever mood my mom was.

  7. I struggle with this concept every day. How much is enough? Did I complete what I set out to do? Did I help someone else? Do my kids feel like priorities or side notes to my other pursuits? It is such a tough balancing act. Anyone that claims to do this well probably isn't. It's so wonderful that we have each other as women to uplift and encourage each other with this stuff.
    You're not organized? I'm glad to hear you have one fault Lara. I have a hard time seeing any others with all of your amazing talents.

  8. I know just how you feel...but that's just being human, isn't it? aspiring and trying and sometimes failing....It's the trying that's important...and the loving!
    God bless.

  9. I feel myself singing, "Love is all you need" and it's so true! Anyone with kids is right there with you! You are doing a great job!

  10. I can *so* relate to this post. My lists and schedule are a mile long and I'm always on a mission improvement :) your banner.

  11. We all have our areas where we'd like to see improvement in ourselves. Just take everything one step at a time and do the best you can. :)


  12. I would first like to second Audrey's comment.

    Your house sounds like a lot like mine. I have charts I have made for daily things that need to be done, then I have different weeks charts. I get made fun of too!

    Second your comment about Bria, is exactly what I was reading in my book this morning "Children: The Challange" by Rudolf Dreikurs M.D. GREAT book, recommend it to everyone!

    So many good ideas in the book about teaching our children. Now my challenge will be to use the principles laid out in this book.

  13. Just wanted to pop in and say hello & thanks for commenting on my blog today!!

  14. Sweetie, you do the best you can with what you've got and what you've got ain't bad!! Love and the knowledge of love is what you've got and it is so important to your children and family and that is really what life is all about. You are great at mothering and taking care of your families needs be happy in that and in the knowledge that you are talented in many other ways and the rest will come with time. Thank you for the prayers and hugs and I'm hugging you right back!