It kills me when something I do upsets someone. Seriously kills me. I hate it, I stew about it, I worry and fret, I apologize, I try everything I can to make it better. But sometimes there really isn't anything I can do.
I had to make a decision recently that let down a friend. But, the decision I made was the best thing for my family, and really the only decision I could make under the circumstances.
I'm having a hard time with it. It really bothers me to know that I've disappointed her, but I know I made the right decision. I mean, the right decision is pretty disappointing to me, too, but what can I do? So, even though she's very upset with me, I don't know what to do other than apologize profusely which I've done now several times.
I want to know how not to be affected by this. I know you can't make everybody happy all of the time. I know that my family is first. I know that ultimately, this isn't my problem. If she were in the same situation, I would hope that she would make the same decision I made and not feel like she has to worry about me being upset about it.
And the thing is, I don't really care that she's mad at me. I care that I've hurt her feelings somehow. I can deal with anger, but I just hate knowing that I let someone down.
Anyway, I'd love advice. (Sorry for being so cryptic, I promise it's nothing too serious.)