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Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Wearing all the hats

I don't know about you, but I never feel very capable of being everything I am supposed to be at all times. Instead, I feel like I am an excellent mother one day, a great voice teacher the next day and an amazing Young Women leader the next. I never seem to have the ability to be all things at once. Not even two things at once, it seems. When I am busy being a fabulous scrapbooker, my housekeeping, mothering, vocal teaching, and whatever else responsibilites get neglected. Or more likely, completely forgotten.

Yesterday I wore the housekeeper and mother hats quite well. I took Sophie to the doctor, I went to the bank, I went to several grocery stores (spent 120 and saved 120. Go me!) and did a fair amount of house cleaning. Even the "deep" kind. I was even able to remember to copy and send some music to one of my students who has had trouble finding the piece I assigned to her. But then, my mom hat went right back on.

Today I am donning my photographer hat for a good portion of the day. I took some newborn pictures this morning of a friend's new baby and I told the SUU kids in the choir that I would do headshots for them this afternoon. That was kind of crazy of me to do, but they were taking headshots of each other to use in their tour program with a not so great camera under fluorescent lighting and not having much luck (gee, I wonder why?) so I finally stepped in and said I would be happy to do some pictures for them. I will also have my singer hat on for a bit, and then my Young Women's hat. Unfortunately, the mom hat has been rather neglected already today.

Tomorrow I will be wearing my musician hat for a good portion of the day. And not because I will be teaching at SUU. Nope. I am going down to St. George to adjudicate a vocal competition. Looks like I have 29 kids to listen to, critique and work with. I'm actually pretty excited. It's been a while since I have adjudicated anything and I always have a lot of fun. Several of my own students are competing (they will have a different judge) and I hope to be able to find time to peek in on them as well.

So, am I alone in this? Do you feel like this, or am I just some sort of anti-female who pretends to multi-task, but when it really comes down to it, fails miserably?

What hats do you wear, and how do you juggle them?

Do tell.

15 comments :

  1. Oh you must have missed my meltdown yesterday. I seriously feel like I can't do it all! I couldn't even sleep last night because I was so upset that I wasn't being perfect at everything like I wanted to be.

    Maybe I'll take your "hat" approach and see how it works for me.

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  2. Sunday is my worst hat day. I try to be a great listener during the Sacrament Meeting, then my mom hat falls off. And vice versa. I am the sunbeam teacher. One of my girls is in my class sitting on my lap and the other one sits right behind me literally hugging my neck the entire sharing time. While I try to get these girls to sit down and listen, my teacher hat falls off! I come home to my torn up from the morning house. I look at the mess and just go upstairs and read for personal enlightenment and my housekeeper hat falls off!

    If I work out a few times a week and blog on the same days...all the hats come tumbling down. I just drudge on like only we can do. I don't think I was made to multi task at high speed.

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  3. I'm with you. When I was working from home it was the worst. I didn't feel like I was doing either "job" well.

    Yesterday I wasn't wearing the housekeeping hat, and when the remote turned up missing Matt made a comment about the house being a pigsty. Of course this got to me, and I wanted to let him know that a lot of the mess was from having his family visit, but I refrained. I knew that I should have done more around the house, so getting upset with him wasn't the thing to do. Guess I was trying to wear the Primary hat for half the day, and the mom hat and the me hat must have taken up the rest.

    Just so you know, you do a great job at everything I see you do!

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  4. Wow, this has been on my mind. I've had tons going on and am constantly changing modes: housekeeper, chaffeur, nurse, teacher, advocate for my kids, performer, YW leader, photographer, creator. I've been scatterbrained through it all! It just gets really tough sometimes to keep all those plates spinning!

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  5. And this is where the overachiever in all women comes out! We feel like we have to be the best at everything all the time! I just make a list for the day...when the list is completed (which usually takes all day) I need to feel good about that and not look at what I haven't done! God willing there is another day to way up to, and we can always try alittle harder but as long as we are making progress we should feel good...I think you are fabulous!!!

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  6. soooo... hats... so difficult to wear, I'm telling you, especially if it comes to wearing more at the same time... Let's see mine: wife, (many kinds of) teacher (i.e. Romanian, English, trainer-of-the-trainer), company manager, daughter, mother-of-cats (yup, you know, no children yet, but I am training my abilities on cats :)) ). And I too fail miserably at being more wonderful things at the same time :). It's just human, I guess. Lots of hugs, Lara.

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  7. I want to know what time you get up and what time you go to bed. I was staying up well past midnight for a few weeks there and I really got burned out. What about you. How do you do it all and not find yourself burnt out at both ends. I have been asking myself the same question for about...oh, say three years! You tell me how and I'll try and give you feedback. How's that? I think whatever you're doing is working, because apart from your worst critic-you, sounds like everyone else is loving you and can't get enough!!

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  8. Don't be so hard on yourself! Your girls look happy, you seem to be doing well at work, no one has called the health department on you yet...I think you're doing an amazing job...just don't forget to take some time for yourself now and again!
    God bless!

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  9. Sheesh, I hear you. My hats are Artist, Teacher/Mentor, Co-op leader, Designer (read that "Working Stiff"), Fiancée, Friend, Daughter, Student. I can never wear more than two at once, usually, and juggling is hard enough on good days. Now that I'm hobbled by a broken arm, I have to learn to juggle one-handed.

    I've finally come to the realization that instead of insane one-handed juggling, I need to slow down and focus on just being a Person first, and take each opportunity/obligation as they come, on a discretionary basis. Well, that's what I tell myself, at least. Heaven help me if I rationalize the end of juggling by taking up metaphorical unicycling instead! :)

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  10. SO many hats so little time.

    Funny you should bring this up. I just started reading a book called Gift from the sea by Ann Morrow Lindburgh. It's basically just her ramblings about the role of women and she says we are like trapeze artists juggling family, career, relationships and so much more. She talks about simplifying which to her means letting the cob webs and dust collect and not worrying about it. I don't know how much I agree with some of her ideas but it is kind of refreshing none-the-less.

    Marielle

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  11. I think you underestimate how well your doing wearing all of these hats, Lara. I have been a one-hat kind of lady lately, when I'm usually a ten hatter. We just do the best we can.

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  12. It's impossible to be every thing to every one ALL at the same time. So don't be hard on yourself, you are fantastic!

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  13. Heavens no, you're not "some sort of anti-female who pretends to multi-task, but when it really comes down to it, fails miserably". Not at all. We CAN'T do great in EVERYTHING every DAY!! We're not designed that way. Just do your best at what matters. :) WHEN it matters. Hehee...

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  14. We all have hats! Some come at birth, some come with marriage and motherhood. They never go away and that fall off from time to time, BUT they always fit! As much we don't think they do - you can always find them later and put them on. Don't give up! You are doing great and as Lacey said - you're always given another day to try again. You're not alone!!

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  15. I dunno - I think I tend more toward all around off days or days where I feel incredibly overwhelmed by EVERYTHING rather than taking turns being overwhelmed by individual things. But I'm sure I've had awesome teaching days that turned into lousy parenting days...and I'm pretty much ALWAYS a rotten housekeeper, so that doesn't even count... the keeping track of bills and stuff tends to totally escape me too... :-0 :-0 :-0

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