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Friday, September 26, 2008

You just never know

Yesterday I received word that a close friend from high school passed away. He was on a business trip, away from his wife and children, and suffered a heart attack. I spent a good portion of my afternoon crying, and feeling awful that I hadn't yet returned his last Facebook message to me, because I'm just not good at returning emails/messages, to be completely frank. And that is a stupid reason, and now I can't ever return that message.

He was one of those good people, who loved everyone and exuded such a happy and positive outlook on life, no matter what. 7 years ago, his younger brother, a police officer, was killed in the line of duty. I watched how he handled that tragedy in awe. Right now, I have a very heavy heart for their parents, to lose two sons at such young ages--two sons who both left behind young wives and young children.

Those of you who live in or near my small town, are aware of the huge tragedy we experienced last month, when 10 of our citizens were killed in a small plane crash. Nearly everyone I know knew someone involved, and there was a definite pall over the city for that first week as we attended memorial services and funerals. So many of them were very young. There was a young man whose wife was expecting their first child and another young woman who had just gotten engaged the night before.

Anyway, I've just been thinking a lot about our short time in this world, lately. We have absolutely no idea how much time we have left on this earth. It makes me want to be the best person I can be, every day. I have no time for selfish pursuits. I have no time to worry about silly things that don't matter in the hereafter. I have no time to ignore my most important responsibilities. I only have time to focus on nurturing my relationships with God and with those I love. I have time to find out what my mission is here, and do it. I have time to be the best wife and mother I can possibly be. I have time to teach my children the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

It is so easy to lose sight of why we are here. I take comfort in the fact that my friend did know why he was here, and was doing all he could to make the best of this life, despite its hardships. I just hope that when it is my time to go, that I can leave without any regrets. That I can honestly say I have completed the mission I was sent here to do.

That quote we often hear about living each day as if it were your last, is definitely excellent advice.


  1. I know how you feel. My uncle was killed as he was out on a walk with his wife on Wednesday by someone in a car who got distracted and hit him. It makes you think about things a little more carefully.

  2. Having just moved here, I didn't know any of the people killed in the plane crash. But everyone in my ward knew most of them, so I could sense the somber-ness of the situation.

    I'm sorry about your friend.

    (P.S. My husband just got his doctorate, and now we're paying student loans too. Hence the free tv.)

  3. I was so surpised to hear about this as well. I really needed to hear what you had to say about it. Life sure doesn't revolve around the imperfect subjunctive and sometimes I forget that.

  4. Lara, I'm sorry for your recent losses. This is something I think about often, even though I've never lost anyone really close to me.

    Life is very precious.

  5. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. News like that is so hard to take in!
    Thank you for the wonderful reminder to be the best person and friend to everyone around us. It's too often that we take our lives on this earth, for granted.

  6. This is totally the reason I now say that old isn't until at least 120. Having lost 3 parents already (by the age of 26) I can sure empathize with the children left behind in these circumstances. We truly do just have to live every day to the utmost and pray that we will have all the time we need in this life to accomplish what we have been sent here to do. Take care of yourself, we love you!

  7. Sometimes I wonder how I'd live my last day. Besides crying.
    I think it'd obviously be with kids, with a lot of pictures, and videos. Mostly leaving behind memories.
    Tough stuff, that's for sure.

  8. The last month I have learned so much about life as I have faced my own hard trial in my life that I can now say I am thankful for. It has made me look at life in a whole new light. I am sorry for your loss, it is SO hard to lose a friend that you care about.

  9. I'm sorry to hear about your friend.

    I also wanted to say I love your photos. They are beautiful and you are very talented.

  10. Thanks for the reminder - we'll keep you and all those mourning in our prayers.

    I know what you mean about unanswered messages - I keep my grandma's last email in my inbox, just to remind me of her, and that each day is a gift.

  11. That is so sad. I'm so glad for my faith in the hereafter. Life would be so depressing without that knowledge.

    As they say, all we know for certain in this life is that we're going to die. Not that it makes anything easier, but I'm glad for these reminders to make sure I'm moving forward in the best way I can.

  12. I am so sorry my dear, Chris was an unusual man. Very happy, kind and sensitive. I hope we can go to his funeral. We will try really hard to. Life IS just too short for any type of unkindness or selfishness, unfortunately it always seems to rear it's ugly head through people. Let's just make sure it is not us. Love you so much!

  13. here Lara,
    take some time out with your family and show them this beautiful world we live in and all the things there are to love and be grateful for.

  14. Lara- who was it? can you email me? sharla dot palmer at gmail...did I know him? It really puts things into perspective and makes us realize what really matters. Someone from my class just died a few months ago in a motorcycle accident.

  15. So sorry to hear about your friend. My heart goes out to his family and to you.