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Tuesday, October 14, 2008

I am a good mom, I am a good mom, I am a good mom

Heather of the Extraordinary Ordinary challenged us moms to make lists of the things we feel we are doing well as mothers. I think this is such a wonderful thing to do, because honestly? I focus way too much on my perceived failures when it comes to motherhood. I had to think long and hard to come up with this list (feel free to add to it!) and while I am not perfect at any of these areas, I do feel like these are things I do a pretty good job at.

1. I am very good at allowing my children to be creative. I do have to catch myself to make sure that I am not saying no to a project only because it inconveniences me, or that I am not getting mad because they spewed art supplies all over the house without my permission even though they made me a lovely book or picture. I am thankful that they are creative and that they want to do these sorts of things.

2. I am good at letting them help me, or sit and watch me, while I am doing a project of my own. This can be sewing, scrapbooking, cooking (very rarely), cleaning or playing the piano. They usually have endless questions about what we are doing and I try very hard to put annoyances aside and truly teach them as I am working.

3. I foster independence in my children. I don't worry too much about the outcomes of things...if they want to do something by themselves, I will always let them (as long as it is safe!). If the outcome isn't perfect, and it's something that really doesn't matter, I try to let go of it. If it does matter, we work together to get it to an acceptable point, but I try to let them do as much by themselves as possible. Because of this independence, Bria is actually pretty good at doing her hair (although sometimes it still looks like she is an orphan child), they can all get themselves their own breakfast, Bria can cook a few things like scrambled eggs, and even Sophie, my most independent child of all, can do a ton of things all by herself.

4. I read to them daily. This is incredibly important to me. Bria is already showing the fruits of my work with this by reading at a middle school level right now. She loves to read anything she can get her hands on. Chloe loves to be read to, and has taught herself to recognize and sound out several words. She can also memorize a book after hearing it one time. Sophie doesn't quite have the patience to listen to a whole story, but she loves to get her books and look at them with me. We identify objects and animals and sounds and such.

5. I kiss my children often and say "I love you" many times a day. My reward for this, is that they return the favor.

6. While Joel is definitely "the fun parent," I can be pretty fun, too. I love to tickle and joke with my girls, and they love it, too.

7. I never speak down to my children. This includes speaking in oversimplified language (baby talk) or calling them demeaning names. In our house, stinker and booger are only terms of endearment, and they know it. I treat them like people who have much to offer, and not babies who know nothing. After all, my children have been my greatest teachers.

8. I enjoy the moment. If they make a huge mess, I always try to take a picture so that I can laugh about it later. I document these moments, and their little personality quirks, so that I will never forget them. After all, they will grow up one day and stop making huge messes and saying the darnedest things.

9. I love my girls and they have no doubt of this, even if I am not the perfect parent all the time. Or ever, actually.


  1. Beautifully put. I have a lot to learn I see. I am always cringing at the mess that's left behind but I never thought about the outcome of the project. Thanks for opening my eyes...again.

  2. Currently my children really know how to take a nice nap in front of the TV.
    They also know who is a registered voter nearby (and I have to SHHH them when they scream "why aren't they registered?")

  3. Heavenly Father wants us to nurture them with love! You are doing that. And to teach them about who they are and where they come from and that they have a Savior! I think you are doing that! Good Job! But most importantly their mother knows this! Example, example, example!

  4. I love this idea. I'm going to do this.

  5. Thank you so much! I love it that you linked up and I just know people who read this will be touched and inspired.

    And commenter friends,
    if you are inspired to do your own list, feel free to link up over on my blog so you can share it with others. and maybe even teach someone something new. It's fun! :)

  6. That is really a great list. Good for you! I have been half-heartedly thinking about creating a list myself, but it tends to give me a headache to try to come up with more than one or two things. Maybe I will try to come up with my own list.

  7. You sound like an amazing, loving mother!

  8. That was awesome, and a great reminder. I think I am going to work on my list. Thanks

  9. That was very nice. I need to do better and letting Zoie do things. My parents let her help so much more than I do, and when they've done that I've found she's so capable.

  10. I realy should try this. I tend to be hard on myself. I am trying to involve my girls more. I let them put the caramel on our caramel apples. They made a huge mess. But, I am talking baby steps.

  11. This is such a good idea. I too feel defeated at the end of so many days, so it's good to remember that you accomplish positive things as well.
    You're doing tons of great things that will help your girls to turn into wonderful women!

  12. You ARE a good mom. I can tell that your girls are happy by your stories and pictures. If you weren't a good mom, they wouldn't be so happy.

  13. It's amazing how much, we as mothers can undervalue our role or at least underestimate the GOOD that we do every day. I love this & I'll have to conjure up a list one day.

    You are a Mother I look up to, Lara. I think we can all learn something from eachother.

  14. What a wonderful list. I have much to aspire to. Thanks for being a great role model.