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Sunday, November 02, 2008

She's official

Before you scroll down to see the picture of Bria and her father before her baptism, you need to understand a few things about Bria.

1. Bria has a very difficult time adjusting to the idea of new things, let alone the new thing itself.

2. Bria hates doing anything in front of people, including playing her violin, speaking in church or school, saying prayers for anyone other than her immediate family, etc.

3. Bria likes her clothing to look "cool" at all times.

So, armed with that information, I'll tell you a quick bit about the day. We needed to be at the stake center at 4:30 in order for Joel and Bria to get dressed in their whites. Around 4:15, everything that could possibly go wrong at our house did indeed go wrong. We couldn't find Chloe's other shoe, Bria's new dress ripped and there was no time to sew and I could only find one safety pin, Sophie woke up from her 3 hour nap totally cranky (from all the Halloween candy, no doubt) and refused to wear anything but pink boots and wouldn't let me do her hair, I forgot my sheet music for the musical number, Joel couldn't find things he needed and on and on and so forth ad infinitum.

As soon as we finally drove up to the stake center, Bria refused to get out of the car (see number 1) and began to cry about being embarrassed and nervous to go through with her baptism (see number 2). We finally convinced her that all was well, and she came with us and got her white jumpsuit. I took her in the ladies' room, where she changed into it and immediately burst into tears upon seeing its less than fashionable shapelessness (see number 3). She flat out refused to come out of the bathroom, for fear someone would see her (see number 2) and also voiced her worries about being dunked under the water (see number 1).

I knew it would happen, because I know my daughter. I did my very best to prepare her for weeks and weeks, but it wasn't quite good enough. I considered it a victory that she even went to her baptismal interview with the bishop, and that she was excited about inviting her best friend to the ceremony. But it wasn't quite enough to assuage all of her fears.

So, by the time she was willing to get her picture taken, she was still having issues with the whole situation and refused to look happy. Also, by this time, there was only 5 minutes left before start, so there wasn't a lot I could do to happify her.


Do not despair, though. All four of her grandparents came and gave her pep talks and helped her to cheer up. When she and Joel were sitting together in the chapel in the opening meeting, he loosened her up in a way only he can (Joel can always make Bria laugh). Once everything was underway, I saw smiles from her and knew that all was well.

The baptism itself was wonderful, and Bria was very calm and only a little embarrassed. I cried and she didn't. I know she felt peace from the Lord, and knew she was doing a wonderful thing.

And indeed she was.

27 comments :

  1. Congrats to Bria! One day she will look at this picture and laugh.

    Hey, did she like the cupcakes?

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  2. Funny picture! I still remember my baptism. I actually still have my scriptures I received from my aunt that day, and I still use them. I have had them rebound and some of the pages have fallen out, but I love them. I can't not use them.

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  3. What a special day!! It is exciting but kind of a little nerve racking for the kids. Sounds like it turned out wonderful in the end.

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  4. As someone who has dealt with my own special set of nearly-and-often-immobilizing fears from childhood on, I am moved to tears because of the bravery/faith that Bria showed in doing what the Lord wants her to do. Bravo, Bria!

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  5. I never had a clue how big a baptism is for the mom (I'm guessing it is bigger with your first than others... but it's still big).
    Glad it ended-up happening. It's just getting you ready for her wedding day. :)

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  6. Yay, Bria! That was a very brave and special step that you took! And that picture is a definite keeper. :)

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  7. There should be some best baptismal picture you could enter that photo into... You were dealing with a lot of issues going into it--or better said your daughter was. Glad it happened even with all the chaos.

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  8. That picture just cracks me up!!! If looks could kill:o)
    Congrats Bria on your wonderful decision to get baptised!

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  9. I think it's good that you got that for the picture—it's an accurate documentation of how the day went, and you'll be able to look back one day and laugh!

    Congrats to Bria on her big day.

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  10. I've been having all sorts of interesting and teary feelings about the hard things that the Lord asks us to do. Bria is learning early! What an opportunity to learn, and what a wonderful girl to do it anyway, even though it was hard.

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  11. That picture is priceless! Wonder what she'll think of it all when she gets older. I don't even remember my baptism day, sadly, and there are no pictures of it. You are doing a great job at keeping a history of your lives!

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  12. Congrats Bria love the picture. My husband has a way with my kids to make them laugh too.

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  13. I would expect nothing different from our Bria. Her hesitance to different things makes me love her all the more. (probably because it reminds me of her Father)

    Yay Bria! You did it!

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  14. OH MAN! I hate it when you want a special memorable picture and it just doesn't work out. :(

    I'm glad everything turned around in the end.

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  15. That is the BEST baptism picture EVER!!! LOL I don't think I've ever seen anyone less excited to be at their own baptism. It definitely makes for a good story.

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  16. Ok, I thought I was alone on this. Jasmine didn't want to find a conventional dress for her baptism and we ended up all over Dallas before she settled on a brown skirt with an off-white top! At her baptism, she also didn't want anyone to see her, so we had a "closed-only family-and the bishop" type of baptism while everyone quietly but surprised, waited for the whole thing to get done. Oh, well, at least baptisms are perfect even if days and the participants are not. Yay, Bria! Great job, Joel! That picture is for keeps for sure.

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  17. Yeay Bria! I'm sure she will understand the greatness of this one day!

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  18. I love that picture and she will too, in about 15 years.

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  19. I remember those feelings of baptism. I know she will too. Those feelings out weigh all the stress she was feeling before. Congratulations to her. What a wonderful thing for a parent to be a part of.

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  20. Cute picture! Made me laugh! She sounds so much like my daughter, who has anxiety over EVERYTHING!!! She hasn't been baptized yet, just one more thing to have anxiety over! She actually told me last year (when she was 5) that she didn't want to be baptized because she was scared.

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  21. I am glad that in the end that it all turned out well. We are sorry that we were not there. I actually was in Primary on Sunday and I thought that Bria was not going to go up to the front when they called her up to recognize her for her her baptism, but alas she went up.

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  22. Lara, what photo editor program do you use? I'm looking for something better for digital scrapping and stuff. (Email me at melkaydal@yahoo.com)
    Thanks!!

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  23. No need to look at the yearbook now. :) (Except that the last name is still eluding me . . . feeling like a dork) But yes, I remember him!

    Congrats on the baptism. I'm sort of freaking out that my baby will be baptized in two years. Not sure how they all got that old. I've got a second-year deacon and an almost beehive too. Yikes!

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  24. Wow, that picture tells a great story.

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  25. aren't daddy's the best? so glad the day went better. bless her heart. you know she'll have only positive memories from that special wonderful day. tell her congrats from ashley!

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  26. Hi Lara,

    Thanks for commenting on my blog! I came to your blog and I've wanted to comment on a whole bunch of your posts, but then I'd start reading the next one and get distracted.

    This one I couldn't pass up, though, because we had a similar day when my son was baptized. We had a bunch of family coming into town and we were having a big dinner at our house afterwards. That morning, my husband and I woke up to our daughter screaming bloody murder and when we ran into see what was wrong, she had blood pouring down her face from her forehead. She had gone to the bathroom to blow her nose, but she sneezed when she was bending over to get tissue and she hit her forehead on the corner of the countertop. It put a nice little gash in her head and we had to take her to the ER for stitches (which was traumatic enough in and of itself). Then she was self-conscious all day. It wasn't even her baptism, but it was a very difficult day for her.

    Someone told me that they had things go wrong at each child's baptism, so I'm getting ready this time for that same daughter's baptism in December. She has difficulty with anything out of the routine, too, so it will be interesting.

    Thanks for sharing your story. It was a good reminder that I need to be more prepared than I was planning on. :)

    Love your blog! I'll be back!

    ~Tracy

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