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Thursday, February 05, 2009

You can find a friend anywhere
(even the post office)

One morning last week I went to the post office to mail off some job applications for Joel (let's all cross our fingers for him). I had Chloe and Sophie with me, and although the line was short, it wasn't winning any awards for speed. Sophie was wearing a pair of her Princess shoes, since that is her footwear of choice these days, and sometimes arguing with her just isn't worth it.

Just ahead of us in line was another mom with two little girls of her own that looked just about exactly Chloe's and Sophie's ages. The mom noticed Sophia's shoes, and pointed out her own two-year old's brightly colored flip-flops, worn on the wrong feet and with socks. In January. We laughed about their headstrong, shoe-loving personalities and struck up a conversation. Turns out the older girl really was Chloe's age, and she had two older daughters that were right around Bria's age.

Meanwhile, the girls were starting to get over their shyness (at first they were just staring each other down, very interested, but too scared to say a word) and conversating with one another about the alphabet song. Then my newfound friend got called up in line and was gone before I could think about asking her for her phone number. Once she left, I regretted that I hadn't.

Turns out she must have felt the same way, because while I was buckling Sophia into her carseat, she showed up at my car and handed me a piece of paper with her phone number on it. I gave her my own information and we talked a bit more. We live on opposite sides of town, but we do hope to get together soon to head to McDonald's for a play date. Nobody was happier about this new development than Chloe, who was already crying that she had made a new friend and didn't even know her name.

I have always felt that I struggle making new friends, but the older I get, and the more I realize that everyone else feels the same way, it has become much easier. I never would have thought in a million years that I'd be the type to strike up a conversation while waiting in line at the post office, much less make a friend.

I'm glad I've changed.

35 comments :

  1. I agree. Making friends is sometimes very intimidating, but well worth it. I love when there is that instant click factor. It is very real. Glad she took the time to do that. Chloe is happy too.

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  2. I feel the same way. I used to never talk to people or try to make friends but it has seemed easier as I have realized the same, that people generally feel the same way and all are looking for friends.

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  3. How wonderful ! If you do a playdate at McDonalds, they have a buy one get one free drink special going on from 2 P.M. - 5 P.M. on weekdays...

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  4. I love it! There was a woman who lived in our town in Iowa that I would see EVERYWHERE...finally one day, just about in unison, we both said "I see you just about everywhere I go, maybe we're supposed to be friends". Of course that wasn't too long before we moved away, but for a while there we had an unspoken Thursday Lunch Date with the kids @ Burger King. I think we both went there on the same day of the week at the same time on purpose, hoping we'd connect again. The one lady I did get brave enough to trade digits with never returned my call. Hmmmm...guess I could add her to my list from yesterday's post ;)
    (kidding)

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  5. I love making new friends, I'm just not that good at it! Good for you!

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  6. This is AWESOME!! I am glad that you made a new friend!!

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  7. Way to go! I struggle making new friends too. We have lived here for two years, and well let's just say we spend ALL of our time together as a family :)

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  8. "We live on opposite sides of town,"

    LOL! But that town is Cedar City! So really, compared to other places, you're living in the same neighborhood! lol

    (don't slap me...)

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  9. Good for you! And for her! And the girls! Of course, there are some places in the world (such as the one I live adjacent to) where you would not want to give your phone number to a stranger you met at the post office. Yeah. Could be dangerous.

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  10. I know I'm only 27 but I also find it REALLY hard to find good friends. I'm glad you found a potential friend. Just don't get too busy to meet up with her.

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  11. Good for you If I think I have only done that once or twice. I'll have to try that again soon.

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  12. I bet you made eachother's day! How fun!!!

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  13. I have a painfully hard time making friends--at least, I did until blogging came around. There's something about it that makes it easier to open up and get to know someone. I'm still a basketcase trying to get to know someone w/out it, though. :)

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  14. That's awesome! I guess I just need to kidnap a kid so I can make new friends too.

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  15. laughing at KP, up there.

    I totally agree with you, the older I get the more I learn that everyone feels the same and wants frienship and acceptance. very cool post.

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  16. How fun! It's funny how easy it is to create friendships when you have being a mom in common! here's to many more playdates to come!

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  17. Isn't it funny where you make friends?!

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  18. great post!

    i'm all about trying to open myself up to new experiences right now.

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  19. Wow, I'm just impressed you dared to take kids to the post office (it's one of my least favorite outings.) But good for you. Finding friends is worse than dating because you have to sell yourself and your kids all at once. Package deal. Rough stuff.

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  20. I need to be more brave about making friends! That's exciting for you, though.

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  21. I wish I could do that!! This biggest conversation I've had in line somewhere has been after the other party has seen all my kids and says, "Boy! You've got your hands full!"

    And I reply, "Yep."

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  22. People always find a reason to talk to me whether I can spare a minute or not. My problem, wish it wasn't, is being able to cut it off so that I can of on my merry way.

    I'm so glad you took the time; sometimes another person is just looking for others to listen.

    Big hugs,
    Carolyn

    Visit my blog soon, I'm having a giveaway!

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  23. Good for that lady for going back! I'd never have the guts. Hope you have fun on your playdate:)

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  24. You're so right--I thought it was just me until I really started talking to other women--we're all lonely. I hope you have a great time.

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  25. Loved this story. I'm kind of shy that way, too, but it's so good to remember that we're all just people, and the stranger you meet at the post office could become a great friend.

    One of my best friends from the time we lived in Utah was a gal I met at the park while our kids were playing. I feel so grateful that I (uncharacteristically) talked to her that day.

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  26. I'm still extra self-conscious and trying to work on the "striking up conversations so I'm not so lonely" aspect.

    That line at the post office is ALWAYS long, isn't it?

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  27. Isn't that kind of what blogging is like/about. Striking up new friends. A chance to share with someone who might just "get ya and where you're coming from" What if you would have passed up that opportunity.. and now end up meeting/being with someone who may really enrich your life.

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  28. I agree, I have rarely heard anyone complaining that someone wanted to be their friend.
    Unless they're me, and we're talking about facebook. :)

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  29. I especially think most stay at home moms feel that way. Sort of friendless at times.

    Hope the playdate goes well-how fun.

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  30. Now, see, I found you to be very friendly when we met IRL a few years ago.

    In any case, you not only made a friend but set a good example to your kids too of reaching out. Good for you!

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  31. Lara, look at all your friends that you have made! I don't know of many people who have a million comments on their blog! You are very loved, my darling daughter!

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  32. I love meeting new people, and I love learning about other peoples' lives. It's why I blog. It's why I ask people questions that embarrass my children. It's why we're here...I think...to remember each other :)

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  33. Your writing is so amazing. The way you say things just really moves me and I thought you should know :)

    I love reading posts about something that challenges someone and then there are hurdles jumped. It makes me cheer. Post office friends are cool :)

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  34. I have never felt very comfortable with the social scene. Mailing job applications? Good luck. I am guessing you live in Cedar City, are you wanting to leave? I grew up in Richfield and spent many state competitions in Cedar. It was back when Cedar was a little smaller and only had 1 high school.

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  35. That is very cool that she did that. And that you wanted to as well. I wish it wear all so simple. I hope you have a wonderful playdate at Micky-D's.

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