Moderation: It should not be my middle name | Overstuffed Overstuffed

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Moderation: It should not be my middle name

While at Women's Conference a couple weekends ago, I met my friend Mary for lunch before we both headed over to my mom's class. Mary and I had a great conversation about many things, one of them being our relationship with food--specifically sugar. Quite apropo, as we were sitting in our old haunt (the Harris Fine Arts Center) while eating our very healthy sack lunches and preparing to attend a class about taking better care of our bodies.

Mary told me she has finally just given into the idea that she cannot be moderate when it comes to sweets. And I told Mary that I agreed whole-heartedly. Not that she can't be moderate, but that I certainly can't, either! There is no such thing as "just one cookie" for me. If I decide to eat one, I may as well just eat the whole batch because I sure as heck won't stop.

Both Mary and I have been off sugar several times. We talked about how, once we managed enough willpower to be off for a couple weeks, it was easy to stay off. But the minute we thought we could handle a handful of M&M's, it was over. At least, that's how it is for me. One M&M after months of self-denial, and I will have eaten my entire weight in chocolate by the end of the hour. Best to just forego the one.

Later, the gal who was teaching alongside my mom was talking about healthy diets. She said something along the lines of, "If you want to eat a cookie, go ahead and just have one. Then you'll be satisfied and you can concentrate on other things." Mary and I looked at each other knowingly and laughed a little. I won't speak for Mary, but I was kind of hating that girl and all others like her who can stop with just one cookie. It really isn't fair.

I was so thankful that when my mom got up to speak, the first thing she did was make a joke about how if she ate one cookie that she'd eat a dozen. That some of us really can't stop at just one so it's best to know yourself. I guess I get that particular non-moderation gene from her. I can forgive her for it, since she gave me so many other good qualities, but I sure wish I could eat a cookie every once in a while and not gain five pounds in the process.

P.S. I'm trying to go off sugar again. I sort of fell off the wagon recently, and it's depressing me since I lost so much weight. I don't want to gain it all back, and I will if I'm not careful. So, the first couple weeks are the hardest. Please don't make me any brownies or I might have to kill you before I eat the entire batch.

33 comments :

  1. Well Lara, think of me. I am doing the same thing and having bad withdrawls. Ugh. But I do have a little more energy which I am seeking constantly.

    They have great sugar free jello :)

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  2. There are a few things that I can eat just one of and be fine. The other things I just can't keep in the house. Good luck with your sugar-free reality over these next few weeks. You're stronger than me!

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  3. Uugh. I hate trying to go off of sugar. I went off the first part of my pregnancy only because I would throw up every time I ate it. Now, unfortunately, it's not really a problem. My weight has already suffered the effects of the sugar.

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  4. That sweet tooth is such an addiction too. This is why I don't do much baking. If it sits on the counter it will be mine. MINE!

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  5. Good luck with going off the sugar! You are stronger than I.

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  6. Going off sugar? Like all the way? Like completly?? Oh my! :o)

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  7. I hear you on this one...I have no will power with sweet things, NONE!

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  8. I am the same way. It helped when I admitted to myself that I really DO have and there really IS such a thing as sugar addiction. So, just back away from the candy isle! I do ok when I am grocery shopping, but my husband, who apparently doesn't care if I am fat or not, brings home the sweets. I just have to hope they are his favorite sweets, and not mine!
    :~D

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  9. I have no will power at all!!

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  10. I can't go off completely. Because then I cheat and gorge. So, I try to moderate myself.

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  11. Did you SEE the photo of all my German chocolate? I've been feeling somewhat tortured. I managed to sample for a few days, and then yesterday....yesterday I ate a lot of it. A lot. :) I'm just like you in this respect!

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  12. I can't eat just one cookie either. Baked goods are my biggest pitfall and so hard to moderate myself with. And I love to bake. Sorry combination. At least your mom gave you the advice to knw yourself along with the general lack of moderation.

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  13. I definitely do not have the 'moderation' gene either. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who can eat one cookie and then go on happily with my life without another thought:)

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  14. This may sound odd, but this exact idea is why I've always thought is one reason for the Word of Wisdom being for the "weakest" of the saints--going totally off alcohol and tobacco is easier than trying to use them in moderation. Just a thought.

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  15. I certainly eat the whole batch almost every time I make anything. That's why I don't make things very often. Why do I keep torturing myself by purchasing the Costco chocolate muffins??

    Note to self: do not make Lara any kind of treats right now.

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  16. I can't stop at one cookie either, but I can stop at 3...or 4 if i let myself have the 4th one. And don't worry, Sam made brownies for family night this week and they stayed here so you wouldn't have to wrestle with your willpower!

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  17. I am just the same as you. good luck!

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  18. Potato chips are my achilles heel and when get a taste for them, I can't eat just one ! Ditto for chocolate... I always think when I get to the bottom of the bag,it could be worse ! ( alcohol, cigs, drugs ) LOL

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  19. ARgh! It is just plain hard!!

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  20. I am completely the same way with sugar. I always hated it when you were at someone's house and they made cookies and then they gave you one. I'm thinking, "Uh no, I need at least 5."

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  21. I remember when Deni and Sue would go off sugar and I just couldn't understand how they could do it. I am on again off again with the "Going off Sugar" I always marvel at how great I feel and then a holiday comes...I get one taste and it is over! You are quite the blogger. I'll go vote right away. emily oz

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  22. Got it, no brownies for Lara! How about blackberry tart or cobbler? I have this reverse psychology going on wiht sweets. If I see a lot of them in my home, I don't touch them or it helps me not worry about it if I ate just one and it helps me stop at one, but the moment I see there's only three or less left, I go for that first! Since the same goes for my children, you can almost guarantee that sugar is everywhere because that's when they don't go nuts on it! As rare as I bake, they want to it all but the last few times I've made cookies, cakes and brownies from extra flour and chocolate, we had tons of extras! Go figure!

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  23. You know Lara, you do have to have one flaw in this life. If it's a sugar addiction, at least you're in good company--I too suffer. Derek says he thinks that in heaven we'll all be fat and the joke will be on us for trying to keep our bodies so skinny.

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  24. i guess i'll just have to eat that pan of brownies i baked for you....

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  25. Moderation is the key to the way I eat. It's been hard, esp. after the super strict diet where I had to eat a certain amount.
    Now it's all about listening to my body. On a brighter note, I could eat just brownies for lunch though. If I want.

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  26. I know exactly. I love sweets. I never had to worry about it till the last few years. I gained five pounds just last week from all the junk I ate during Teacher Appreciation Week. I am now trying not to so I can lose the pounds. It's a love-hate battle. I say, just eat it, but then do as much low-fat and low-cal on everything else, and work it off! You gotta have SOME enjoyment!

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  27. It's all about the all-or-nothing with me. And it may not be the best way to live, but honestly, it's easier for me to just not eat any candy than eat a little bit. Some people just don't get that. But it works for me.

    (This is why I haven't had a drip of soda since April 1st. And I don't plan on it anytime soon. :) )

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  28. I have a difficult time with the concept of moderation as well. I'm such an obssesive gal...I feel your pain!

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  29. I will admit to an unhealthy love of sugar, too. I have been giving it up on and off again over the last month or two, and it really is terrible the first couple of days, and then it seems freeing. But oh, I love me some sugar...

    And yeah, what is it with the people who can stop at just one? I don't get it.

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  30. I'm just the same. A few years ago I realized I was eating candy, chocolate AND baked stuff every single day. I decided to keep it to baked goods. I don't remember how many I ate, but I remember that it wasn't long before it didn't hurt to not buy Reisin or accept chocolate someone passed around after church. I just knew I could have the chocolate in my cookies later on. I don't remember if I ate less of the baked stuff, I only know that my skin was awesome and I was very thin at that stage of my life. I want to go back there.

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  31. It is so hard to not have any treats. I can usually just have one or a bite of something but there are some evils that I really can't stop with one.

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  32. I feel so honored to be part of this post! I have thought a lot about our conversation, too. Right after I returned home form Women's Conference, I was listening to an old BYU Devotional, from when I was still at BYU. Elder Maxwell said something that brought our conversation back to mind:

    "Before you die, my young brothers and sisters, you will thank Heavenly Father many times for the advantages of abstinence! Regarding certain destructive things, abstinence is so much easier than moderation!"

    I think, that for me, sugar goes into the category of abstinence, too. Good luck with your no-sugar venture! And thanks, again, for the great reminder of a wonderful day.

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  33. ooh, ooh! I was @ BYU Women's Conference, but didn't attend this one -- it was the Word of Wisdom class, right?

    I have the same out-of-control-cookie gene, too. Take tonight for instance. I only made 5 cookies, fearing I'd eat that many...and I did. But at least they were quite small. And homemade. And full of wheat flour & tons of oatmeal. ;)

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