So, last week, I asked all of you how on earth to start implementing more structure into my life and overcome my schedule rebelliousness. I got a lot of great advice from you. I think what it comes down to, is that I need to choose a schedule/routine that fits my own approach to life.
It did seem to be the general consensus that I should not be worrying about such things right now at this time of my life. I do agree, but I think my kids need a bit more structure than I've been giving them so far this summer.
I really liked what Kerri had to say, and I think I'll do a modified version of her schedule:
This is our schedule for the summer: Morning: getting our jobs and practicing done. Lunch. Nap for Ben and quiet reading time for the others. Afternoon: activities. Mon: Cousin Day, Tues: Library, Wed: Pool, Thurs: Field Trip, Fri: Friends.
So far, so good. We haven't had any major breakdowns, and the schedule is loose enough for me to not get overwhelmed.
I will say that we have done a pretty good job of getting practicing done first thing in the morning. Bria is especially good at this, as she is an early riser and really does love to play her violin. I think she actually looks forward to playing every morning. It's a little more difficult with Chloe to get her to do her piano, but she's doing okay with it. After practicing, they each have to do three jobs and then the rest of their day is free...and that's where the struggles begin. So, I really like Kerri's afternoon structure. We only really have about 4 weeks until we move (AUGH!), so I may not be able to plan something every day, but I think 3 times a week is good.
I had to laugh at Chandler's comment, because, basically it is how I function, too:
I try, and try, and try to follow a schedule (especially since my husband is a creature of habit), but I'm not so good at it. The best I can ever do is invent a totally new schedule every day—so it's not exactly a daily routine, but at least that day is planned out.
(Then again, does anything ever go according to plan?)
Instead, I keep lists like nobody's business. I have the weekly list, the daily list, and the long-term list. And I'm pretty good at sticking to them—so even if my day doesn't exactly resemble yesterday, or tomorrow, at least I've accomplished the things I'm supposed to do. Yes, things like "do the dishes!" and "fold laundry" make it onto the list, too.
Don't know if that helps, but I definitely feel your frustration!
Ha! Joel constantly makes fun of me for my lists because I put such obvious things on there. But honestly? If it isn't written down, it doesn't get done. Sometimes it still doesn't, even if I wrote it down, but it was a lot closer to getting done than it could have been.
Today, my list reads:
Send in Michigan school registration for girls.
Pack 3 boxes of books.
Laundry--at least 3 loads + fold.
Take load to DI.
Take box of baby clothes to Heather.
Find musical number for Sunday.
Find babysitter for Friday.
Pick hymns for Sunday.
Make CDs for play/photos.
So the problem I see with my personal lists, is that they don't really help my kids. And my kids need structure more than I do.
But I'm not going to worry about it too much until after school starts and we are all safely moved in.