There was one of my best friends from high school. Even though we both attended the same University, I rarely saw her there as our majors were so completely different. I don't think I've seen her since 1995. There was one of my MTC teachers. I see him occasionally at mission reunions, but I haven't been to one for over 3 years, so it's still been a while. Speaking of missions, there was a Romanian boy whose family I taught, too. And several others, one from my Arizona years, a fellow vocalist from college and one from the first ward Joel and I were in as newlyweds.
It used to be that when a person I hadn't thought of in years showed up in my dreams, I would wake up and rack my brain to try and figure out why. These days, it happens a lot more often, and I only have to look at my computer screen to know why.
I blame Facebook.
I'm not even one of those who spends super amounts of time on the website, either. I usually update my status at some point during the day and read a few pages of news feed, comment on a status or two, and then I'm done with it until the next day. And yet, nearly every day I see all of these people who were characters in the story of my dream, and once upon a time were characters in the story of my actual life.
I go back and forth with my feelings about Facebook. Sometimes I feel like unfriending all of these people who I probably would have been fine never thinking about again. Sometimes I feel like never opening up the website again, especially after a hurtful argument took place in my status last week between people who have never even met each other in their lives (long story). Sometimes I start feeling like I have no privacy in my life (my own fault, I know) and sometimes I really think it's all stupid.
And of course, there's all the articles you see online touting the evils of Facebook. I do agree with many of their points, and then I'm not sure what to do with my account. Ramp up privacy settings? Delete? Ignore?
But then, I will receive a friend request from somebody I really did want to find. Or I will post a dilemma in my status and get really good advice. Or someone will post a link that is very informative and teaches me something. I've found people to whom I taught the Gospel on my mission. And when they send you messages like,
"Well i was just visiting this site and honest is good to find some of your old friends . i am cucu george's brother from Romania..you and you family loke just great and healthy .that is good ...i've bin on the mission if you dont know . i served almost 4 years ago in munich Germany , and that was the best time in my life . i Wanted so hard to thank you for coming to my family with the messege of the Restauration wich has change'd our life . Thank you sister Preston."I mean, the joy a message like that brings completely trumps having weird dreams about people I really don't think about all that often.
Don't you agree?