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Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Catch-22

The Maestro is not working much anymore. He's not teaching the first summer session, so there isn't a lot of need to work. And what work he has been doing, he does from home.

I like having him home all the time. I've missed him, as his presence has been rather scarce these last few months.

But when he's home all the time, I don't accomplish much of my own work. I tend to sit around talking with him, or eating the great lunches he cooks for me, or just in general not doing the laundry because I don't feel like it.

Tell me I'm not the only one? I think it's just that having him here disrupts my routine, and I don't know how to deal with it.

But, I am still happy he's home.

Just happy with my chores undone.

32 comments :

  1. I'm totally the same way. At least, that's how I get on Saturdays. I always say I will get a ton of work done, but I end up just hanging with him. Oh well. Most days he's never home until late.

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  2. Just the same, unfortunately. My house stays almost immaculate when he's gone, and then he comes home and I'm a sudden slob.

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  3. Totally the same. I don't get much done on Saturday unless I make a concerted effort and we do it as a family.

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  4. Yep, I definitely feel like this. It's definitely about the routine being shaken up a bit.

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  5. Yoday our boys came home with preschool memory books . . . and on one page, G-Dog's teachers had asked him to fill in the blank:

    "I have a dream . . ." (I think it was for MLK Day or something like that.)

    His answer? The same as mine: "that daddy will be able to get money without working."

    That kid. I swear, he gets me every time.

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  6. I hear that! My hubby was jobless for about 5 months and I enjoyed every second of it, though I was a lot less productive. I think our room only got cleaned once in that time. Now he is working and though I get loads done, I miss him like crazy. I say just enjoy it. You wont remember a messy house as much as you will remember the time spent together, right?

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  7. When my hubby workd his crazy 12 shifts and was off 3 days one week and 4 the next--it was totally like that. I was off my routine and things just didn't get done. I did, however, appreciate spending time with him. I guess it's one of those double edged sword deals.

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  8. Maybe divy-up the chores a bit now?
    I feel your pain. boy, oh boy do I feel it.
    One minute you're a single mom, the next minute you have a male growth on you. :)

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  9. You are so not alone! The good thing is that it proves you really love each others company because you are still wrapped up in each other! I am exactly the same way. On Monday morning the house is a disaster area. I don't do dishes on Sunday or I never pick up. I have just gotten used to it, and know that Monday will be a busy day around the house. I think the stress free lovely weekends are worth it though! Enjoy your time together and the summer down time.

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  10. Yep...I am much more effective at getting things done when Joey is gone, except if he's in the mood to help and we can work together....but that's not very often :)

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  11. I think it's a great problem to have. That he's home and that you like to be together.

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  12. I have no advice! Spencer works 12-16 hour shifts at the beginning of the week the rest of the week he is home...nothing gets done. Sometimes big projects get done but most of the time nothing! I wish I could tell you it will get better! We make lunch all the time! Big yummy lunches!

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  13. Yes-I've noticed when my husband is around I get less done.... Oh wait:)

    Glad you get to have him home. That must be nice.

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  14. You are SOOOO not the only one. I'm totally not the wife who can't wait for M. to go back to work after the weekend; I love having him here. And with the situation we're in at the moment, even though he *could* be at work doing stuff he wants to do, he doesn't want to be.

    With that said, the first week was wonderful, where we both got tons done. As time has passed, we've both realized, "Hey, we can stay up late and take naps tomorrow. Hey, we have all week to do laundry and clean the kitchen." It's getting old.

    Last night I finally took some time to myself and decided I need to be more productive. So today has been much better. :)

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  15. I actually get more done because he is here so I am less likely to be goofing off online. However it does from time to time throw a wrence into our works...Dad just does not know the schedule as much, and the baby is so happy to have his daddy home, he is not interested in naps or food.

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  16. I am in agreement with you. I used to ask my husband what his plans were when he would have a more relaxed teaching schedule and spend more time at home. He didn't understand that my routine was messed up when he was around. All the time. Then I asked him how he would feel about his daily grind if I came to campus and sat in his office all morning, and then attended every afternoon class with him, etc. He gets it. I wasn't really trying to force him out, I was just off kilter and it messed with my homemaker mojo! :)

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  17. Yep. I feel the same way if Hank is home for a few days. (which he rarely is)It is about the difference in routine.

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  18. When we went from my husband going to school and teaching to working at a full time job, I hated it. I missed the semester breaks and the holiday breaks like crazy. It took almost 2 years to get used to the fact that Christmas didn't mean a 2 week break.

    So count me jealous!

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  19. Its the same for me. When my Dear Hubby is home from Saturday to Monday, my whole routine is disrupted (in a wonderfully good way) and nothing gets done. I rarely even turn the computer on. I enjoy having him home on those days! I don't see much of him during the week.

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  20. My husband works in an emergency department so his schedule is nuts. Often he is home in the day and I have the same problem. It has taken me years to adjust to still doing my work, even if he is home.

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  21. this is going to sound totally heartless, but if my husband is planning on coming home for lunch, I tell him he has to give me a heads up. Because i turn into a worthless ball of goo when he comes home, so I have to plan for it or it messes up my entire day. I love the man. But routine is way easier when he's gone all day.

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  22. You know what it is....can't live with them (sometimes) but definitely can't live without the (always)! Even after all these years and raising children...my hubby goes out of town to help out the children with whatever they need and always ends up staying to help neighbors with whatever they need, he has been gone 2 weeks now and I can't wait to get the ole busy body home with me again! Yes I have a lot of time to myself and space to do whatever I want and guess what....I don't do a thing with it...I end up staying home, and when he is home I am wishing I was out shopping or doing my own thing LOLOLOL. Ah the love of our lives....so glad to have them! YOU are NOT alone!

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  23. i have the same problems. my lover is military so he's gone a lot, which is good, but when he's home...it's also good. and i don't get a THING done.

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  24. OK, so my hubby started working at home back in August and it worried - not only because of the financial difficulties of starting a business, but because of the wrench him being here throws into my routine. I had to completely rearrange my schedule and get used to pretending he's not here. It's not so easily done.

    I must say it's all been quite the adjustment, but it's been worth it to have Daddy around a little more.

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  25. It's a different ball game when husbands are home during the way. We made the shift last year --Mr. Wellborn working from home -- and while it has been tough (we have a very small house), it's been a good thing.

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  26. I'd rather have my husband home and have a messy house than have it clean but not get to see him. Then again, I don't mind clutter, so I guess that makes it an easy choice . . .

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  27. yes, yes, but isn't it simply great?!

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  28. I think you should totally embrace the mess and enjoy the time with your husband. I can only imagine how much fun that is!!

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  29. Oh Yes!! I am the same way... I don't get a thing done with Matt home. BUT... I love it when he is home. We are really blessed to have such a great relationship and friendship.

    The house work will always be there, unless you can hire out... I wish!

    Have fun with him home.

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  30. I am the same way. And even like that when my kids are out of school. Less blogging, less housework, More life!

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  31. You are so not alone! The Tailor and I both tend to work long hours these days (me because I'm still establishing my business, him because this is his first year at his job), so we miss each other. But when we try to work when we're both in the house together, the whole day is completely derailed and nothing gets done. Oh, and the house magically becomes completely cluttered. Sigh. Isn't there a way to have our cake and eat it, too?

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