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Monday, August 30, 2010

An Answer to Prayer


Besties


On Wednesday, I got a phone call at about 10:00 in the morning from my friend down the street.  She had just been down to the elementary school to pick up her girls' teacher assignments and wanted to know if we had gone yet.  We hadn't, because it wasn't something that was eagerly awaited in my household.  At least, not by Bria.

She was so worried about who she might get for a teacher and who may or may not be in her class that she had been having many a crying session over it this summer.   The closer the first day of school loomed, the more anxious and worried she became.  It's tough as a mother to watch your child worry so much over something that you can't do much about.  She has to go to school, and I can't control who is in her class or even which teacher she is assigned to.

After I hung up the phone, I told Bria that we would be heading down to the school after lunch to find out teacher assignments.  She turned a little white at the news.  Then I mentioned which teacher Ann had been assigned to, and she worried even more, because that was the teacher she was sure she didn't want (because she has a reputation for giving lots of homework and for putting on a class musical which is way worse than lots of homework).  I also know that she was really, really hoping to be in Ann's class.  Ann is her best friend, and Bria needs to have a good friend in class with her.

Last year, the first day of school was not easy for Bria.  She tried to be stoic about it, but I know it was one of the most difficult days of her life.  Walking into a new classroom, in a new school, in a new city, in a new state isn't easy for any kid just starting the 4th grade, but for Bria, who already has a hard time coping with change and who is on the introverted side, it was pure torture.  When I heard how her day had gone, I cried for her.

Luckily, I had just met the lady down the street.  It turned out she had three daughters--the oldest and the youngest are the same age as my oldest and youngest, and the middle two are a year apart.  They have all become the best of friends and I KNOW that they were an answer to my prayers for my children.  And for myself.  I feel pretty strongly that they are one of the reasons we needed to buy our house.

Ann has really taken Bria under her wing.  She seems to inherently sense Bria's unique set of fears, and she really helps her.  She brought her right into a cute group of friends and inspired her to join Girl Scouts and the school choir.  And the two of them get along really well, to boot.

So, on our way down to the school on Wednesday, Bria began to say that maybe she wouldn't mind having Ann's teacher, after all.  I knew she was weighing her options and had decided it would be much better to have a hard teacher with her best friend in the class than it would to have any other teacher without her.  When we got to the school and I received the teacher assignment, I handed it to Bria to open with a prayer in my heart that she would feel good about whatever it said.

I think we both held our breath until we saw that Bria and Ann are in the same class.  And then we both sighed with great relief.

And, if I'm not mistaken, I think Bria is actually a little excited for school to start now.  We haven't had a single crying episode or conversation about why she doesn't want to go to 5th grade since the day she found out she will be in her best friend's class.

And that does this mother's heart good.

19 comments :

  1. You're such a sweet Mom, Lara. You inspire me. :) I am worried about being a mom of big kids... since my little kid (3 yr old girl) is SO hard to handle sometimes. One day at a time, I guess... Thanks for sharing. :) Sweet story.

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  2. Excellent. Maybe she'll be okay with that extra homework, because she can do it with her buddy at her side.

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  3. this post is so sweet, it made me cry. I am so happy for Bria! :) My daughter, Zoe, is in 4th grade this year and she struggles a bit with change and new situations. I know what you mean about watching your children go through things you can't really do anything about -- it's almost too much for me to handle. I am so thankful for answered prayers ;) Here's to a great year for Bria and Ann!

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  4. Change is hard. Being a mom watching your kids go through it and not being able to change much about it is really hard. I was way more worried about the new school year than my children were.

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  5. Whew! My 5th Grade daughter is more likely to worry like that too. I'm so glad you won't have that friend stress to deal with this year. A best friend is a precious gift.

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  6. We moved to a new state during the time when my daughter was in 4th grade. It was hard. She had a friend that took her under her wing as well. It all worked out perfect but my mother heart was nervous during the time it took to all work out. That daughter is 21 now. But I remember her 4th grade year like it was yesterday.

    Good luck during the 5th grade year. Sounds like it worked out perfect, lots of homework and all. :)

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  7. Thank heavens for friends that make life a little easier! Hope she survives the hard teacher.

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  8. Friends are such a very important part of school. My oldest had a great friend in his class at first, but then they hired a third fourth grade teacher and moved his friend into the other class. We were bummed, but at the same time, the new class was a blessing because there classes were very overcrowded.

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  9. I remember the dread of finding out who your teacher was, and who was in your homeroom class. And since my neighborhood was very clique'ish - it was twice as difficult. I would never go back, and thankful that my boys never had such fears.
    Yay for Bria!

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  10. With my son starting a new school soon, I know just how you feel. We're doing lots of praying over here, too.

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  11. Friends really do make or break any situation. I am so glad that she gets to be in class with her friend. That is such a relief. I hope the year is wonderful for all your girls. School is so hard, both academically and socially.

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  12. Thank heaven for these kind of small miracles. It's amazing to me how vulnerable I am through my children. These kind of things that make them upset ar like reliving it myself!

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  13. I tend to mirror the anxiety of my children, so if one of them is uptight about something at school or some social thingy, I am the one who can't sleep. It is a tough gig being a mommy.

    I am glad Bria is feeling ok about things.

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  14. I was holding MY breath waiting for the answer!!!

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  15. Aw, how sweet. I lub the photo. Again. Your blog is so darn cute.

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  16. Isn't it amazing how emotionally draining being a mom is? How you worry about their reactions and emotions. . . And then when they're happy it's the most amazing feeling in the world? So glad she got what she wanted!

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  17. That is fantastic. There is nothing quite like hoping your child gets what you know they really, really want and then watching them get it! Hope the school year goes well!

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  18. Oh the stresses of a new school year. What really helped my introverted first child in elementary school when we moved to a new school. We bought 5 or 6 pizza's (the $5 ones from pizza hut I think) and took it during lunch. She had all these pizza's and kids came by and asked for a piece, I mean really how is she going to eat all of them. She gave them all away and was able to shine in a nonthreatening and easy way. The other kids knew her quickly and liked her because she shared with them. (It was also her birthday at the beginning of the school year so that was a great excuse to bring in something)

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  19. Oh, my heart goes out to Bria! And you're wonderful to be there for her and help her through her struggles. I'm so glad Bria gets to be with her friend—she'll have such a great year knowing that she can put her fears behind her.

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