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Monday, August 15, 2011

The Most Horrible Time of the Day

When I first started Project Walking Into a Hug, I was in the process of packing up to move across the country.  The first few tasks were relatively simple and were actually a joy to implement, despite my high level of stress.  But then I got to #4 and it told me I had to have a schedule for my family.  And I totally freaked out.

I do not do well with schedules.

I realize that this is my problem and that I need to buck up and stop making excuses (too right-brained, schedules make me angry [they do!], too easily distracted, whatever happened to spontaneity, need I go on?) and just do the dang schedule.

But a schedule for the entire day is just plain overwhelming to me.  And even though it's now been two whole years (TODAY!) since I moved, it still freaks me out.

This week, I knew I had to try to tackle this, and so I thought about it long and hard.  Finally, I decided that I don't need to schedule everything all at once.  I don't need to shock my family into a schedule when they are so used to my more--shall we say creative?--way of living.

I thought of what the worst time of the day is for me, and I made a schedule for that.

If you must know, it's bedtime.

And so, tonight at Family Home Evening, we will be introducing the brand shiny new bedtime schedule to the girls.  I have high hopes.  School starts in three weeks, and if we start now, maybe bedtime will be the best time of the day come September 6. 

One can only hope.

And when that schedule is all a concrete part of our lives (see how much faith I'm showing?), I will then create and implement a schedule for the morning, which is the second worst time of day, followed closely by getting the girls off the bus in the afternoon.   Baby steps.

The next goal is setting Family Rules.   I must admit, we've never really sat down and written them out--complete with attached consequences--before, so this will be something new.  I think it will be very helpful.


  1. I have a hard time with schedules as well. Good luck tonight! I bet it will turn out great.

  2. I think you'll do great with it. I only create a tighter schedule during the first 3 months of school to help us get through the holidays and school fund raisers and concerts. Then I let the kids manage their own to see how they're doing. I reinforce and change up every year they're older. The only thing I don't budge on is showers! Sensitive nose.

    Good luck!

  3. I do horrible with schedules as well. I think it's common amongst us right-brainers. My wife is more organized, so she set some ground rules for the kids: bedtime, earliest waking time, kitchen curfew time, homework 1st, etc. Other than the ground rules it's pretty relaxed and I think the kids are better off that way, just doing whatever on a whim. It's bad enough we have to deal with schedules as adults, why make kids deal with it? I guess it's tempting because we want to give our kids perfect childhoods, but what if they would be miserable wit a perfect childhood and much happier with a happy imperfect one?

  4. Hmmm...worst time of the day for us?
    Right before dinner to right after bedtime. So far, a schedule has not changed this. :)

  5. This is fantastic! You go girl!

  6. Unfair not to TELL Us about the schedule. YOu know I love a good schedule.

  7. I think your plan sounds terrific. It's always better to go in baby steps. Small changes last longer than big ones, anyway. The largest mountain is carried away pebble by pebble. I have seen this at work in my own life and it is truly the most effective. Here's to a better bedtime--I agree that it is awful when you have small kids. Mine are now at the age when they put themselves to bed (pretty much--the Big Guy always needs help with something or other) and it's heavenly. HEAVENLY.

  8. I'm with Hilary. We want the details! :) I need to copy you.

  9. Oooh, what a great idea! Schedules. I always want one, but I stink at sticking to them. Sigh. One day. I wish you luck. Let me know how it goes.

  10. I love schedules! Now can't wait to read the post where you tell us how it went.....catching up - can you tell?