The whole reason I started this Project Walking into a Hug thing in the first place was so that I could really learn to enjoy my children. Not that I don't enjoy them, but I know that I let life and chores and responsibilities and exhaustion and dishes and vacuuming and the internet and church callings and everything else just get in the way of enjoying them to the fullest. When I said that I have a difficult time just sitting down and playing with them, it's because all of the above stuff is on my mind and it's hard for me to focus on Barbies or Monopoly or just listening to my child.
And when I write all of that out, it makes me feel terribly guilty, but I am smart enough to realize that I am not the only mother in the world that feels this way.
While real, bonafide playing can be difficult for me, I did make a concerted effort to be more present for my children this week than usual. Instead of just being the mom who barks orders, I tried really hard to be the mom who spent time. And I have to say, I enjoyed my girls so much more this week. We had some wonderful conversations and cuddles and just enjoyed being together.
On the afternoon that I realized I'd have to either cancel helping in Chloe's classroom or walk the 15 minutes to the school, I chose to walk. Mostly because I didn't want to disappoint Chloe, but I thought it would be a nice way to slow down and have some quality time with Sophia. She was all about walking (she is my active child, after all), and we had such fun together. We talked about all sorts of things from Kindergarten to nature to Santa Claus. We stopped and listened to some squirrels arguing with each other, watched two cats playing in the window of a house, and counted over 20 bird's nests amongst the bare branches.
I had similar experiences with Bria and Chloe and I hope to remember this week. My house may look like an episode of Hoarders some days, and I am so not cool with that, but a house can always be cleaned up eventually. Grabbing the opportunities to slow down and enjoy my children during our busy days is priceless.
And I want to grab those moments as often as I possibly can.
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