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Friday, February 13, 2015

Maybe This is a Trial

The Maestro and me. Pneumonia for him, shoulder surgery for me. This isn't a trial at all.

This morning I had a physical therapy appointment.

I only wish it were as straightforward as that. I'm stuck in this shoulder sling for another month, and as long as I'm in it, I am not allowed to drive. I also can't easily get myself dressed (I'm doing better, but still need help with some things) or do my own hair.

These simple tasks have fallen on my dear husband. My dear husband who has had pneumonia for the last week and a half.

This morning I had a physical therapy appointment.

Getting ready wasn't easy. I needed extra help from The Maestro, as usual, and while he was trying to get my hair up into a ponytail, he got a little frustrated.

"I think that maybe this is a trial we are going through," he said.

The Maestro doesn't like to call things in his life "trials." Not when he sees that others are going through much more difficult things. What's a little shoulder surgery and pneumonia at the same time while there are people who are homeless or dying from cancer or who have lost children?

But this morning, after a difficult day yesterday, he was finally willing to concede that maybe this is a trial.

While it was my hair that was the proverbial straw for him, it was really everything about yesterday that truly broke the camel's back. I returned to work this week. Teaching at a university doesn't allow for so much time off just because you had shoulder surgery. Besides, my job is not physically strenuous, so I didn't think it would be too bad.

And mostly it wasn't. I do admit, however, to being pretty naive to just how limited I was going to be after this surgery. Even though I don't have to do heavy lifting or anything overly physical at my job, I do have to play the piano. And while I can do it sort of well, playing the piano in a beastly sling isn't easy. I didn't think about the fact that I wouldn't be able to write on the board with my right hand. I tried doing it with my left, but it's slow and ugly. And just being at work for six hours a day completely exhausted me.

For The Maestro, my being back to work requires him to drive me there, park the car, carry my computer bag, walk me to my classroom, and help me unlock the incredibly heavy door. Then he has to pick me up at lunch and do it all over again after lunch.

That all doesn't sound so bad, but he has to pick up all of my slack now that I am helpless. He has to be the one to drive the girls to their various lessons and activities. I can't do dishes, and while I can do laundry sort of, I'm not very quick. The list goes on.

Yesterday, he spent a lot of time in the car getting me to my doctor, to work, to Sophia's violin lesson, to my institute class in the evening. He got nothing work-related done and he is still suffering from pneumonia, after all. We know this because he also had to get himself to a doctor yesterday and they took another x-ray and verified this.

I think the worst part of the situation is that I feel well enough to clear snow, but I physically cannot do it. He feels terrible, but he can still clear the snow better than I can, so that means he is the one that does it. I almost called someone to come do it for us, but he wouldn't allow me to.

Because this isn't a trial, after all.

But now that it is maybe a trial, I think I'll get someone over here shoveling stat!



PS Because maybe this is actually a trial, I'm finding that post surgery blogging isn't as easy as I thought it would be. Sure, I can type on the computer fairly easily, but that might mean that you're just going to get a whole lot of navel gazing type posts in the next several weeks. Because I'm finding I can't do the projects I have planned, I can't really lift my camera to take photos, and the rest of my life is making me so exhausted that blogging is taking a back seat. Hang tight, and I'll be back in full force eventually. In the meantime, I'll try to write something worthwhile, but I make no promises. Or hey! Maybe I'll finally post all of our vacation photos.

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28 comments :

  1. Hang in there Lara! I just like seeing your posts pop up, even if they are just musings!

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  2. Oh man! I could totally hear Joel's voice saying "I think this is a trial" ... and a smiled a bit, because Joel has always been a funny guy. I am so sorry all of this piled on you at once. But yes, get someone to clear your snow. :)

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  3. Oh what a saint of a man you have! Really! And I hate that things have to be so tricky right now, but as you said, this is a trial, and this too shall pass. As far as the posts, I love ANYTHING you write so keep em coming!

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  4. I emailed my home teacher and he is willing to help out for a while. Big storm coming this weekend and I do NOT want Joel out there snow blowing. He's stubborn, though.

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  5. Wow! It sounds like you'll need your own chaperone so he can return to work, too.

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  6. Luckily, he and I work in the same department of the university, so it will be easier when he is also fully back at work.

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  7. He is a good guy, that's for sure! Thanks, Mandee!

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  8. Debra CharlesworthFri Feb 13, 04:20:00 PM

    Hiring a plow guy was the best thing we did all year. Those precious extra moments mean a lot. Of course, it took almost needing back surgery to do it, but we're sticking with it for next year.

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  9. Kathleen @ Charm Bracelet DivaFri Feb 13, 05:58:00 PM

    Hope things get back to normal for you two soon. Both my older sisters had shoulder surgery (rotator cuff) and they were in exactly the same boat. Neither realized jst how much they would be compromised post-surgery. But they made it through, as will you! Hang in there.
    xoKathleen @ Charm Bracelet Diva {At Home}

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  10. So sorry you two are going through all this Lara. But this "trial" shall soon pass. Just know I love reading whatever you come up - it's always so refreshing and wonderful. Hang in there it will be over before you know it. Cathy

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  11. I had hysterectomy in October, and I felt much the same - it was so much effort to do things, and my posts were .... whiney and navel-gazing. Get yourself feeling better. It won't be forever.

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  12. thank you so much for this! Just printed me off a page of coupons!

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  13. I had two eye surgeries within a 12-week span, which put me face-down in bed except for meals. Not a bed of roses, but I came out of it OK, and finally able to drive again. This too shall pass for you two.

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  14. What is the brand of planner you have pictured above?

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  15. It's a "Mom on the Go" planner. You can find them at this website: www.intheleafytreetops.com


    I have written a post about planners which talks more in depth about this particular planner here: http://www.overstuffedlife.com/2014/09/choosing-planner-that-is-right-for-you.html

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  16. Oh man! That sounds excruciating. It's amazing what we can handle when we have to, though.

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  17. Yes. Already I'm feeling so much better. A couple more weeks and it will be even better than now! Thanks! :)

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  18. Thanks, Cathy. It's true. It's been a month now since the surgery and another month will pass quickly and I'll be good as new.

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  19. I was definitely naive to how recovery would be. But it is going by and things are doing well. Thanks for your comment!

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  20. I use a "to do" journal myself - but I only realized it when I read your post! I always will start a list in my journal or one of my many notebooks (I still write and schedule and remember things best when I write them out by hand) whichever is closest to wherever I happen to be. I mean, not the lists I make when I set aside time for planning, but all those other times I have a million to dos running laps through my brain and writing them down is the only way to shut up the constant replaying of anxious reminders that won't let me sleep or focus on a project. But this system is WAY better! Ok, so I guess A System is better than No System, but I always thought just writing it down was going to have to be enough of a system for me... I'm so grateful to you for sharing this, and grateful for coming across it when I did! I've had separate journals for story ideas, for writing letters I need to write to people that I may or may not (usually not) ever send, endless gratitude journals, journals of lists (books to read, things to do, gift ideas, pros and cons...) and I have always been a To Do List person - but never had the sense to keep a running on. And the whole right side-by-side left side thing is so smart. And yes, houndstooth for everything... it lends even the most mundane of items a polished yet still unique and fun-fancy feel. Awesome. Thank you. And ow I have an excuse to get a brand new blank journal tomorrow!

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  21. Yes, I used to do the same and write my to-do list on whatever paper or post it or notebook was closest. This has made a huge difference in my productivity to have it all together, though. Mostly because I never finished everything before I moved on to a new list somewhere else. :)

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  22. Wow!! What an awesome blog you have got there

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  23. I have been using a very similar method for the past few months. I have another journal, too: an Ideas journal. I have a problem with All The Ideas swirling around in my head, so I love having a place to write them down and flesh them out a little bit to get them out of my head. Then when I have time I can come back to them and decide to follow through or not. :)

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  24. I love this idea! I struggle with wanting everything on technology (on the calendar in my phone and on my to do list on my notes app in my phone) because then I can access it anywhere I go, but at the same time, then I forget about things I need to do because it's not sitting there staring me in the face haha! I'm definitely going to try out just keeping a running list in a journal, maybe separating each page into a "To Do" and "Blogger To Do" List? Thank you!

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  25. Yes. I often separate my page into different areas of my life: blogging, personal, home, work. It helps a lot! And I always forget stuff I put in my phone, too! Doesn't work for me.

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  26. I love the idea of an idea journal!

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  27. I have been researching all summer for a few plans to combine for the things I have to keep track of daily...working smarter...not harder...and avoiding apologies that a task wasn't completed. In my job, I keep track of about 150 - 175 students' progress, interventions, and needs in addition to a busy household with husband, children, 4 and 1, and a pug. I am combining your To-Do List with a simple calendar (thank you for the suggestion in another post) and my electronic work calendar for maintaining invitations to additional expected attendees and Google Calendar to send out emails to my family as morning reminders at 5:00 AM. My To List Journal came from Barnes and Nobles and has a folder in the back and an elastic band that will hold my calendar in place. I also will have to create a simple weekly tracking chart for the other basic tasks that I want to build into my morning routine, since I am also looking at shifting my sleep pattern to complete these tasks before my family rises (devotional, unloading the dishwasher, folding a load of laundry, and weekend tasks). I am appreciative for the suggestions.

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  28. With that much on your plate a good brain organizing system is definitely a must! I'm glad I helped a little bit.

    I am also trying hard to flip flop my sleep patterns so I can do more in the morning. I haven't been very successful, though. Best of luck to you!

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