Sunday, April 24, 2005

Overstuffed = Comfortable

I just needed to clarify that. I am not complaining (usually) when I say my life is "overstuffed"...I've always been this way. One semester in college I took 22 credits. Of course, I thought I could handle it no problem...I just forgot to factor in that I was also working 30-40 hours a week, I was in the opera that semester and I had all kinds of other projects on the side. I am pretty sure that was the same semester that I did the vocals for "The Swan Princess"...oh, and I still tried to have a social life. I about went crazy that semester and I learned for the first time in my life that maybe I shouldn't run faster than I was able...and that I should definitely recognize my limitations. Not that I am so perfect at doing that now.

People commonly ask me how I find the time to scrapbook, be RS President, take care of the kids, teach voice lessons, keep up with the house, participate in Book Club, etc. I have never thought it was so amazing....sure, I am good at not finishing things I start because I get a little overwhelmed--I freely admit that! I also run on less sleep than is probably ideal because I stay up so late doing various projects (usually scrapbooking). I just think I would be bored out of my skull if I didn't have a million things on my plate at once.

I am learning my limitations, but still find myself stretched a little thin. So, for now, I'm working on learning to say "no." I am actually proud of myself when I do. I still need to work on not feeling like I have to explain to people why I can't do something. It is enough to know my own limitations and not feel guilty when I can't do everything...nobody else needs to hear my whole barrage of reasons why I just can't watch their kid tonight or why I can't bring dessert to the ward activity.

But I won't resign myself to a boring life! I enjoy doing many things and being highly involved and I see myself having an overstuffed life for many years to come! It is kind of like one of those overstuffed really is the most comfortable thing, once you learn to deal with the lumpiness of it. Yes, I enjoy my overstuffed, comfortable (if a little bumpy), wonderful life!
Lara Neves
Lara Neves

Lara is mom to three daughters—two teens and a tween. She loves to share her parenting and homemaking triumphs and failures here at Overstuffed! She was diagnosed with Lyme disease in 2015 and has been fighting it ever since. When she isn't working on her mother of the year award, you can find her reading, singing, or taking photos.