Monday, August 15, 2005

Unexpected teaching moments

So Bria was very into watching The Incredibles for a while. We checked it out from the library and she watched it daily for the entire two weeks.

Being the girl who loves to play make-believe that she is, she decided that she was Violet...the one that can turn invisible and make force fields. I am Elastigirl, Joel is Mr. Incredible and Chloe is Jack-Jack. (We don't have a Dash in our family, so Bria keeps asking when we will...). Anyway, sometimes her make believe becomes a little too real, and that is what happened with the super hero scenario. I wasn't allowed to call her Bria...she had to be called Violet. She consistently called the rest of the family by their appointed character names and made up lots of little stories and things that we were required to act out. (Is this kid going to be good in drama, or what?)

Well, Bria has had a little obedience problem lately. Perfectly normal, I am sure, for a kid her age. One day recently I asked her to do something for me and I made the mistake of calling her Bria. Following is a bit of our conversation:

Me: Bria, will you please go put your shoes away?
Bria: I'm not Bria, I'm Violet!
Me: Okay. Violet, will you please go put your shoes away?
Bria: {Looking incredulous} Violet obeys?
Me: Of course she does.
Bria: But she's a superhero! She doesn't have to!

How often does your child give you such a perfect lead in to a great conversation? I was able to use the moment to explain to her about obedience, and that super heroes were good because they were obedient to laws and rules. I even could use the bad guy on Incredibles to illustrate what happens when "superheroes" aren't obedient.

She isn't suddenly magically perfect at obeying, but it has been fun to see what that conversation alone did for her obedience. Made me realize how much you really have to teach whenever the opportunity presents itself, and those unexpected moments are often the very best teaching moments you'll ever have.

Lara Neves
Lara Neves

Lara is mom to three daughters—two teens and a tween. She loves to share her parenting and homemaking triumphs and failures here at Overstuffed! She was diagnosed with Lyme disease in 2015 and has been fighting it ever since. When she isn't working on her mother of the year award, you can find her reading, singing, or taking photos.


  1. I totally hear you, and did you KNOW that Dinosaurs were EXTREMELY CLEAN animals, they loevd baths, and brushing their teeth.
    Neither did I, til' a few weeks ago. :)

  2. Bria is quite the imaginative kid!!
    But I love it!!! She will be a great actor! :) And it is wonderful when you find ways to teach them through what they love and are interested in! That is when some of the best teachings are done! Love you and Love Bria!!

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  4. Little do you know Lara, Bria is alot like you!! You always were dancing around, singing, playing house, or reading books which gave you a huge make believe world. Just as videos do for Bria.
    It really keeps childhood innocent, unlike the rest of the world these days. Raise them like "calves in a stall" as the scriptures say. I'm so grateful you are doing that darling. Love Mom

  5. you're getting BLAM, too, eh?? (blog spam)
    or you could say SPLOG.

  6. So great to hear about kids with imaginations, even if they *do* have an obediance problem! Gotta catch them in those teachable moments, they become harder to find as they get older.