Monday, September 26, 2005

Better than I think?

So, our General RS Broadcast was on Saturday night. I love is always just what I need to hear. It has never once failed me. Sometimes I am positive that everyone else has to just sit through talks that I am sure were meant for me and me only. But then I find comfort in the fact that the rest of the women in the Church obviously struggle with the same things I do...I am not alone.

The thing that seemed to be said quite a bit and that really hit home for me was that we are doing better than we think we are, and we need to stop being so hard on ourselves. As someone who is notorious for beating myself up for not getting the vacuuming done or the laundry folded, I thought I'd try an experiment. I had a friend in Provo who told me once that she writes her to do list for the day, but at the end of the day, she throws it away and writes a new list. This list is what she actually accomplished, and helps her keeps her "to dos" and "dones" in better perspective.

So, this is my "done" list for today so far:
  • Got out of bed before 7:00 (This is a major daily accomplishment for me).
  • Got Bria out of bed.
  • Got Bria dressed, hair done, and breakfasted.
  • Made Bria her school lunch.
  • Prayed with Bria.
  • Took Bria to school.
  • Read 2 chapters in the Book of Mormon with Joel.
  • Prayed with Joel.
  • Made breakfast for myself.
  • Answered several emails.
  • Loaded and ran the dishwasher.
  • Paid bills.
  • Chatted with Hilary online.
  • Talked to my mom on the phone.
  • Cleaned up after Chloe when she got sick all over the floor.
  • Did a load of laundry, including Chloe's blankie and clothes worn at the above mentioned.
  • Cuddled with Chloe.
  • Got myself ready.
  • Tidied the living room.
  • Posted a layout on 2Peas.
  • Went to the post office to mail my layout to Memory Makers Magazine and send a couple other packages off.
  • Bought stamps.
  • Ate lunch with Chloe.
  • Bought baby gifts at Target.
  • Looked at the garden center and decided what I will plant in my flower bed next week now that I think it might actually be cool enough to remove the eyesore of my dead plants from the summer.
  • Delivered one of the two baby gifts.
  • Picked up the mail
  • Sorted the mail (threw most of it away).
  • Answered a few more emails.
  • Cleaned the girls' room from the explosion of stuffed animals and books it experienced yesterday.
  • Made my bed.
  • Put new toilet paper in the bathroom.
  • Changed the sheets in Chloe's crib.
  • Finally got rid of the pile of cool brochures Joel brought me back from London that was hanging out by the side of my bed.
  • Killed two crickets that were in my house. (I try to avoid this activity at all costs.)
  • Did an art project with Chloe.
  • Put Chloe down for a nap.
  • Cleaned up after art project.
  • Filled bag for Katrina food drive with canned/boxed foods.
  • Sent 5 layouts in for publication consideration.
  • Read CNN.
  • Read a few blogs.
  • Posted a bit on 2Peas.
  • Cleaned my kitchen for the second time.
  • Called sisters to get visiting teaching stats for the month.
  • Sent a few emails concerning visiting teaching.
  • Cleaned up the playroom.
  • Mopped.
  • Finished reading Harry Potter 6 for the second time. (much more enlightening this time).
  • Made after school snacks for the girls.
  • Practiced violin with Bria.
  • Did an art project with Bria.
  • Talked on the phone with Joel...I think twice.
  • Cleaned up after art project.
  • Answered a few more emails.
  • Put all the books away.
  • Made dinner.
  • Had Family Home Evening.
  • Put the girls to bed...with scriptures and prayers.
  • Put all the videos & DVDs away that Chloe dragged out earlier.
  • Threw all of the stray toys from the day into the playroom.
  • Wrote this blog entry. you'll notice that I didn't vacuum and I didn't fold the laundry that has been waiting for folding for a couple days. (These are the two most common symptoms of my "I'm failing as a wife and mother" syndrome.) But I think I still accomplished a lot! And I'm not sure I remembered everything, either. I'll try to get to the vacuuming and laundry tomorrow, but today....I am NOT going to beat myself up about it. It'll get done.

Lara Neves
Lara Neves

Lara is mom to three daughters—two teens and a tween. She loves to share her parenting and homemaking triumphs and failures here at Overstuffed! She was diagnosed with Lyme disease in 2015 and has been fighting it ever since. When she isn't working on her mother of the year award, you can find her reading, singing, or taking photos.


  1. Wow, I would say that you accomplished a lot!! I don't think that I accomplish that much in one day. You are amazing! :)
    The Womens Conference was great and I need to argue with you- I believe it was just for "ME". :) J-K
    But I did love it and it was very inspiring.
    Love you Lara!

  2. I think you need to talk more with Hilary...
    just an observation
    Perhaps save her from her toilet. :)

  3. it's amazing how this changes my perspective!

  4. What a wonderful entry! I loved this blog! You have a great perspective and you truly did accomplish the important things, the things that really matter!


  5. Lara - you are simply amazing - you have accomplished so much in one day! Thanks for the idea about writing it down - I think if I wrote everything down I would realize I have done a lot more than I thought I did. Love conference time - I think Heavenly Father gives us exactly what we need to hear to uplift our spirits and steer us in the right direction through those that speak!