Friday, September 09, 2005


So Bria came home with her very first "report card" the other day. It was her monthly, mid-term progress report. I was surprised by its arrival, but I am just as new to having a child in school as she is new to being there. I was also surprised by its contents: "Satisfactory" in everything. "Satisfactory" in reading. "Satisfactory" in math. "Satisfactory" in science. "Satisfactory" in effort. "Satisfactory" in working independently. "Satisfactory" in getting along with others. "Satisfactory" in everything else.

Most of all, though, I was surprised by my reaction. Just SATISFACTORY!!!???!! My child is excellent! And then it really bugged me that in the comments section, the only thing her teacher wrote was, "Bria is doing a great job!!" Basically, I was feeling very disappointed in my Kindergartener's report card that isn't really even a report card.

So now, a few days later, I've had time to think about it. What is wrong with satisfactory? Nothing, that's what...satisfactory is not a bad thing! She could have gotten "Needs work" or "Unsatisfactory." Then I might have had cause to worry that she'll never learn to read and freak out about her ability to get into a decent University. But "satisfactory" is just that: satisfactory. And she is, after all, just in Kindergarten. I need to let her have time to be a Kindergartener and not stress about this point I want her to actually enjoy being in school and learn to love learning. Of course I want her to strive for excellence, but I also don't want to turn into one of those Nazi parents who freaks out over a 98%. "Satisfactory" is really quite wonderful! What a smart little cookie I have!

As for the teacher's comments, again, that is not a bad thing at all that Bria is doing a great job. (At least she didn't say "Bria is doing a 'satisfactory' job!!"--then I would have been really upset). I am still ever so slightly annoyed that the teacher didn't give more specific feedback, but I'll get over that. I will go to parent teacher conference next week and I will find out what "satisfactory" really means in Kindergarten.

(And now I will spell check this blog because I am fairly positive that "satisfactory" isn't even a's looking mighty strange.)
Lara Neves
Lara Neves

Lara is mom to three daughters—two teens and a tween. She loves to share her parenting and homemaking triumphs and failures here at Overstuffed! She was diagnosed with Lyme disease in 2015 and has been fighting it ever since. When she isn't working on her mother of the year award, you can find her reading, singing, or taking photos.


  1. Bria is a smart little cookie!! You need not worry about satisfactory!!! That is excellent and she did just start school... She's a smart little girl with a lot of ambition!!!

  2. Satisfactory is a good thing. This is something you will discover when she starts getting A's and B's and heaven forbig C's. When that happens, drama is sure to follow and you will long for the days of satisfactory. They are so much more simple! Enjoy her while she is young. Those are the best years.

  3. Lara you are just so funny! Had a great giggle over this. How fortuante you are to figure this out in a couple of paragraphs.
    I do remember our Stake Patriarch saying to Nate at his blessing, get a's and b's then you are a balanced person, those who are perfectionists have a hard time getting along with others in the world they are too uptight!What a blessing to Bria and to you to learn this very fast!