Monday, January 21, 2008

A meme about my husband

Hilary tagged me today with this one. I thought I should wait till Valentine's Day, but I figure Civil Rights Day is good enough.

Everything you ever wanted to know about my relationship with Joel. Well, probably not, but maybe some of your questions will be answered!

What’s his name? Joel Benjamin

How long have you been together? In June we will celebrate our 9th anniversary. Before that we dated almost a year and a half. So about ten years in all.

How long did you date? A year and a half. Unless you don't count the times we were in a broken up state. That would take off a couple months, I imagine. Especially since the last time we broke up it lasted more than a month. All the other times only lasted a couple days I think.

How old is he? 33. As am I, but he is a couple months older, for which I am glad.

Who eats more? Usually Joel, but occasionally I will surprise both of us and eat much more. Which I so shouldn't do if I want to keep losing weight (not that it happens very often).

Who said I love you first? I totally don't remember, and neither does Joel. Although we both concur it was probably Joel as he is the more effusive of the two of us.

Who is taller? Definitely Joel. And, as I am a fairly tall girl at 5'9", I appreciate that he is even tall enough that I can wear 4-inch heels and still be shorter than him.

Who is smarter? It totally depends on what's at stake. I am much more logical than Joel, but he is much more creative. And if musical knowledge is in question, he beats me hands down. Makes me wonder if I really majored in music.

Who does laundry? I do, although he will help me fold when it gets out of hand, which it does more often than I'd like to admit.

Who does the dishes? I usually do, although we have started enlisting the girls to help with that a little more. Our rule up till now has been whoever doesn't cook must do the dishes. Which is why I usually do them. Yes, you're reading that right, Joel is the main cook around here.

Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? Joel does. But it changes whenever we move because I need to be on the side that's closest to the door. Currently that is the left side, so Joel is on the right.

Who pays the bills? I do. I get to take care of all the finances. I'm afraid it would be pretty scary if we left that part up to Joel.

Who mows the lawn? Ummm.....the boys down the street. :) I'm sure Joel would be happy to do it if we actually owned a lawn mower.

Who cooks dinner? Joel. I cook about once a week. And it's never as good as what Joel makes.

Who drives when you are together? Joel. I hate driving and will pawn it off whenever I can.

Who is more stubborn? I think we can call this one a draw. We're both quite stubborn, although in different ways.

Who kissed who first? Joel kissed me. And he had just broken up with me for the first time. Of course, it only lasted until he kissed me, so that would be the shortest of our 5 break ups.

Who asked out who first? I did. I was sick of waiting for him to get a clue and ask me out. After that he did most of the asking out.

Who proposed? Joel.

Who has more siblings? Joel. He is one of 9---he has 5 brothers and 3 sisters. I "only" have 3 brothers.

Who wears the pants in the family? Hmmm....this is a tricky question. I think a lot of people would look at our relationship and say that I do. But I feel like we do a pretty good job of sharing them, and Joel would say the same thing. Whatever it is, it works for us and we're happy.

As for tags, let's hear from Deb, Jenn, Queendeni (my mom), Tara, and Misty. And anyone else who wants to is certainly welcome.
Lara Neves
Lara Neves

Lara is mom to three daughters—two teens and a tween. She loves to share her parenting and homemaking triumphs and failures here at Overstuffed! She was diagnosed with Lyme disease in 2015 and has been fighting it ever since. When she isn't working on her mother of the year award, you can find her reading, singing, or taking photos.


  1. Loved it -- and you'll love it when it's in your blog book. :)

  2. Off to do this now on my allotted 10 minutes of computer time before I'm enlisted to hunt bears or play hide and seek or school yet again this snowy morning! How DO you SAHMs do this???

  3. I love it. It's fun to read those little details of your life.

  4. So glad we aren't the only ones who don't mow or own lawn!

  5. I'm so happy that Joel finally married you after the many breakups. By far, you were definitely "the one".

  6. I think I'll do this Thursday..... That ok with you?