Monday, January 07, 2008

Overcomplicating simple

Since school started today it was my first try at really implementing some of my ideas for simplification. Things like getting up early enough to have a relaxing morning, grocery shopping without spending a million dollars, and having my household chores done early so I could spend more time with the kids. And I failed miserably....kind of.

Getting up early was a bust because Miss Sophia decided she wanted to play around midnight. I brought her to bed with us, since she made it abundantly clear that she would only scream for hours if I left her in the crib. Mostly she was quiet and I got snatches of rest, but then she would start kissing me or babbling at me. When she finally did settle down (around 3:00 am), she inisisted on nuzzling herself right in the crook of my neck, making it very uncomfortable for me. And now I know what happens when she doesn't get her nap due to the new Sunday meeting schedule and ends up going to sleep an hour before bedtime.

Needless to say, I didn't get up at 6:30 when my alarm went off. Nor did I get up at 7:15 when Joel left the house to go shovel the walks of the elderly couple he home teaches (we got almost a foot of snow last night). I finally got myself out of bed at 7:45 and got the process started. Bria was barely on time to school because she wasn't so easy to get out of bed herself and dilly-dallied around quite a bit (as usual).

I got a few chores done after Bria was at school, got Sophia ready, showered, paid a few bills and began getting my "stuff" together for the big shopping trip while I waited for Sleeping Beauty to wake up (Chloe is my night owl and loves to sleep in). When she finally graced the world with her presence, I rushed her out of her nightgown, into some jeans and a t-shirt and out of the house with a granola bar to eat in the car.

My first stop was the Post Office where I found I did not bring the package I was intending to mail (sorry Hilary...I promise it'll get to you someday!). Second stop was my sister-in-law's house to pick up the coupons from yesterday's paper that she so kindly saved for me. I decided to join Grocery Game in an effort to curb our spending and my Sunday newspaper subscription does not kick in until next week.

So, around noon I left Ashley's house and headed off to the first of four grocery stores. Go ahead. Tell me I'm insane, because I won't disagree with you. My grocery trip turned into nearly 3 hours...not really simplified. It will get better, though. Our cupboards were bare and I did what I had to do to fill them. Part of the reason it took so long was because I hadn't found and cut out many of the coupons beforehand and had to do it in the parking lot before each stop. The bad news is I spent 125 dollars. The good news is I saved 112 dollars. The better news is that I usually spend upwards of 150 dollars each week and get half of what I was able to get today. I have to keep telling myself that time is something I do have, money is not. Therefore, it is all worth it.

I got home just in time to put perishables away and go pick up Bria from school. Then I tried to supervise homework, put the rest of the groceries away, talk to my mom on the phone, referee arguments and get the house in some kind of order. I was frustrated, but oh well. Things will get better, I will figure all of this out and get my priorities in line. While perhaps I didn't accomplish all I wanted to do today, I did manage to take a few baby steps forward, and that's a good thing.

It's also a good thing I have an entire year to figure this whole simplification thing out.
Lara Neves
Lara Neves

Lara is mom to three daughters—two teens and a tween. She loves to share her parenting and homemaking triumphs and failures here at Overstuffed! She was diagnosed with Lyme disease in 2015 and has been fighting it ever since. When she isn't working on her mother of the year award, you can find her reading, singing, or taking photos.


  1. Lara, Amie and I enjoy reading your blog. We feel for you and your hectic schedule. Impressed you can get to 3 store without screaming kids. We are sending you a little helper ... Nathan and Kaylee love cleaning the floors with it. Hopefully the girls will love helping Mommy with their new cleaner-upper.
    Love you all!

  2. Do you ever feel weird using coupons? Sometimes I feel like the cashiers think I'm cheap (which really shouldn't bother me, because I am). Did you use any coupons at Wally World? That was the biggest pain the other night. If you ever have coupons for free baby food go to another store. I was at the checkout for twenty minutes or so while they tried to figure out how to enter these coupons.

    I really like the new header!

  3. A) Me and Christmas -- we are doomed. :)
    b) once you get in the routine of grocery shopping it gets faster.
    And it's all about baby steps, tiny ounces of progression.

  4. Ok - so when are you coming to Arizona again? I want to hire you to take some pics for us!! What a talent!!!

  5. I hear ya. My days never go like I have planned. There just aren't enough hours in the day and there isn't enough money either.

  6. Sounds like you made a good start, despite your frustrations. Hang in there!

  7. I always tease Luke that every time he tries to make things easier, he makes them harder! I think that adjusting any routine has a HUGE learning curve. It sounds like for your first real go at the new system that you were pretty successful. You'll get it. Just hang in there!

  8. I totally commend you on your efforts, Lara. I woke up at 9:00 today because Hank let me sleep in, but then I was grumpy & frantic trying to load up the kids for my Tuesday morning exercise group.

    Did you know that Walmart price-matches ALL stores ads? It's a huge time saver!

  9. - takes a little bit of time to get in the swing of things, but they DO list all the store ads with all the applicable coupons available, so it saves time that way. And it's free.

    Go to forums, and then the "State" listings...

    I'm not sure what grocery stores you have down in Ceder City... or if the ads are the same... but my understanding is that they are.

    Good luck! I did my major shopping today too. Yikes!

  10. Lara you've inspired me and for the longest time I have decided to have a new years goal. And I've even to do it in your style with a concept word. My word for the year is "prepare" or "plan". I'm trying harder to think ahead. You can read more of my thoughts on that on my blog if you want. Anyway.
    Love you!