Tuesday, May 27, 2008

If life were easy, it wouldn't be hard

Today is a day that will go down in the annals of our family history as pretty much horrible. Crazy. Full of insane opposition. And yet, I'm sure that it will also be one of those days that we will look back on and laugh like crazy. At least, I hope it will, provided everything really does work out.

So, Joel's going to Spain on Friday. We've had it all planned out that we would drive up to Orem today (Tuesday), and get some family time in, send Joel off to Europe and then I would have fun with the kids and grandparents while he was conducting Schoenberg in Barcelona.

Then yesterday evening he got a call from the University he had a phone interview with last week (totally weird that they called on Memorial Day after 5:00 pm). They want him to come to the school and give a lecture, conduct the orchestra, have an in person interview, yada yada yada. GREAT! We are so excited. Except they want to see him while he is supposed to be in Spain. The guy really wants him to come so he is willing to have him visit on Thursday, which is the first day the Orchestra will be there to play. Again, great. He said he'd call in the morning with travel information.

And he did. The problem was that the only flight the travel department at the University could find got in 20 minutes before his flight to Spain left. Not gonna work. We even called the airline and they said there was no possible way. Finally, we were able to negotiate a different flight time, and are now just waiting for word that it was approved by the travel department. The thing is, the flight leaves tomorrow afternoon, and we won't receive word until tomorrow morning. And if they don't approve it? Well, then I guess he doesn't get to go interview, which seems a shame, because this would be a great job for him.

Then we just figured out that Joel left his most important bag sitting in our living room floor in Cedar City....3 hours away. It has all of his music scores for Spain. It has his mp3 player with all of his music recordings for Spain. It has his PASSPORT. Seriously, if he left any other bag, he would live. But this one? He can't even get to Spain without it.

Joel was about to get in the car and drive back home to get it, but I thought we should call a family member to see if they could break into our house. My sister-in-law happily went over there and got in through the girls' window. She is going to overnight it to us tomorrow morning and that will be cheaper than the gas money and time spent driving to get it.

I'm fairly sure that this post isn't translating into the great amount of angst that Joel and I have both been feeling today. But, believe me, it's there. I would just die if he couldn't get to Spain, and I would also die if he somehow had to turn down this job interview. Currently, it looks as though things will all work out okay (although, not without quite a bit of effort), but since I don't have his passport in my hands and since I don't know if the flight plans for the interview will pan out, I am having a little freak out session inside my head. Things have been difficult enough for us the past few months, and to be honest, I have barely been holding myself together. I've been on the verge of a nervous breakdown for several weeks, and these situations aren't helping me.

But then I think about another little thing that happened to us today.

Just as we arrived in Orem, we had to stop at Barnes and Noble and buy another recording of Pierrot for Joel. When I opened my purse to pay for it, my wallet wasn't there, and I almost had a heart attack. I thought I had left it in Cedar City somehow. Luckily, my checkbook was there, and the clerk was very kind about letting me use it without photo ID, and even told me about the credit union co-op should I have to get money out of the bank. Anyway, both Joel and I were dying because the debit card (we only have one, it's what works best for us) was in my wallet and he would definitely need it in Spain.

But, we got into the car, and were relieved to see my wallet on the floorboards. It just fell out while we were driving. We laughed and laughed about it and said, "Can you imagine if we had left something so important at home?" Well, now we have. And I think that little experience with my wallet is just the Lord's way of letting us know that all will work out. It's just a little opposition.

And a little opposition never hurt anybody.
Lara Neves
Lara Neves

Lara is mom to three daughters—two teens and a tween. She loves to share her parenting and homemaking triumphs and failures here at Overstuffed! She was diagnosed with Lyme disease in 2015 and has been fighting it ever since. When she isn't working on her mother of the year award, you can find her reading, singing, or taking photos.


  1. Yike! Glad that worked out in the end!!!!!

  2. Wow! I hope everything comes together for you.

    Hopefully someday this will actually be a fond memory for you--like the time we were driving from UT to PA with all our earthly posessions and broke down in Podunk, IL (after already breaking down in AMERICAN FORK, ha ha).

  3. Holy cow. I think if I had all those stressful things going on in one 24 hour period I would be dryheaving somewhere. Just remember that you feel strong promptings that he should go to Spain -- don't let this other opportunity lessen that. Things will work out the way they should because you listened to the Spirit. Now if you can just get his passport... Good luck!

  4. I am getting an ulcer reading your blog.
    It will all be fine.
    Maybe instead of hypno-birthing.
    you need hypno-life-ing. ;)

  5. I knew Joel was leaving this week and wanted to pop in to say good luck with Pierrot. We'll be doing sprechstimme "finstre schwartze Riesenfalter" in his honor.

    As for the interview, what a fantastic development! I can't imagine that things wouldn't work out, but I'm praying for you anyway.

    BTW, M. found out he was top 5 but not top 3 for that job he interviewed for. And it was BYU. Where is Joel's interview? You can message me on FB if you want.

  6. Oh my goodness... what a crazy day!
    I hope everything works out for you -- it WILL! It has to!
    Great things are gonna happen!

  7. Sheesh!!! Well, it can't get any worse, right? :) Good luck with everything tomorrow.

  8. Wow, wow, wow! Opposition means that great things are going to happen!

    Hoping life settles in and everything works out just as it needs to - hang in there!

  9. I heard about the job interview & I hope it all works out with the flights! We are hoping, wishing & praying for you guys! Call me while your in town & we'll get together with the kids!

  10. Joe always says "Wasn't doesn't kill us, makes us stronger." You must feel a little like Popeye today! LOL

    Glad it all worked out!

  11. And I lived through all of that and it is the solemn truth! Glad I was there to help you!

  12. "And a little opposition never hurt anybody".

    At least, not for long......

  13. I hope that everything goes well!! Sam had told me about the phone interview, I hope the travel plans work out!!! Just remember to 'See the hand of God" in all the craziness, because he is aware you guys!! As crazy as life seems and gets.

  14. Hey, Lara - normally I don't link people to other people's blogs, but my sister just wrote about a pretty harrowing experience on her blog, and had some great spiritual insights about it. You can link to it by clicking on "Random Meanderings" from my blog.

    One of my favorite Pres. Hinckley quotes is "It will all work out in the end. And if it hasn't worked out yet, it isn't the end" - we'll be praying for you and Joel, too!

  15. Oh my gosh -- the STRESS! I can only imagine how horrible it has been. That sounds so awful.

    GOOD LUCK JOEL! And good luck to you trying to relax with all of this!

  16. I WOULD HAVE A BREAK DOWN!!!!!!!! Im glad its working out ok! I hope he has a safe trip. Take care