Tuesday, August 18, 2009

by Hilary Erickson

Moving... moving.... well, it's /moving/ to think about moving...Mostly because most of my own major move involved crying, and lots of it.

The lack of control over the moving van coming (stuff arrived 2 days late, with nary a phone call from them). The fact I had no idea where ANYTHING was, I remember driving by a Wendy's and being SO happy to finally have seen a restaurant that had English writing. Not a friend in sight, and a new job to be figuring out.

It was all very moving.

But the worst part, the WORST part? Well, it was leaving our families. For you see, my husband and I decided to leave the safe confines of Utah valley and move to California just as everyone from California decided to move to Utah. Driving away from my parents house was one of the scariest, and saddest things I have ever done. Off into the unknown from something that was so well known.

But was it worth it? Boy, oh boy has it been!

So Lara, here are my favorite things about moving:

1. Family drama? Click. That's right, when the drama's gettin' high in Utah I can say "Oh man mom, one of the kids needs something, I'll call you later! click." In Utah I am forced to participate in said drama. Enjoyable? Yes.

2. The food. We thought we had great restaurants in Utah. We were wrong. I still miss Brick Oven, I will admit. Although, at first it's hard to find those "great" spots -- once you do
find them, you will find they are just as delicious.

3. The weather. Just thought I'd rub it in that my weather is awfully nice. You can rub it in that you are close to Canada, or the north pole. :)

4. The friends. I am guessing you will also find in your ward that there are people just waiting for a friend, for "psuedo-family" to wrap their arms around. People who leave our ward miss the tight-knit friendship we share here because most of us are without family. They are waiting for you. I think you already know this.

5. The experiences. When God tells you to move, it's for a reason and when you find that reason it's amazing to see how He has guided your life. I am so grateful that he told us to move here. We never would've thought of it on our own. Really. NEVER.

6. You just have each other. There's something about going through a hard experience with your spouse and realizing that they're there for you -- no matter what. And that you're there for them is enjoyable as well.

I know Lara was hoping for a funny experience with moving, but for me it was just hard, hard hard. I hated every moment of it and I felt like nothing went right. And in the end it was entirely right. And perhaps that's the best experience anyone can ask for. Good luck Lara and Co. May the wind be behind your packed minivan, and may you always remember that home is where you're at.


Originally from Utah, Hilary currently lives in the Bay Area. She recently added child #3, a girl with two great big brothers and a band directing daddy. She is a nurse to the core, but also dabbles in photography, scrapbooking, cooking and serious DVR usage.

Hilary blogs at Pulling Curls and has the knack for being funny and insightful all at the same time. Truth be told, I appreciate her insight more than her wit, although I do enjoy a hearty laugh fairly regularly because of something she wrote.

Hilary and I "met" on a scrapbooking message board, but quickly found that I remembered her band-directing husband from our college days (I think I had music history with him) and she had gone to high school with my own orchestra-directing husband. We were pretty much instant bosom friends just like Anne Shirley and Diana Barry and have rarely gone a day without speaking to each other in some form (usually instant message) in four years. We've had the opportunity to get together in person several times, usually at our favorite Provo restaurant, Brick Oven.
Lara Neves
Lara Neves

Lara is mom to three daughters—two teens and a tween. She loves to share her parenting and homemaking triumphs and failures here at Overstuffed! She was diagnosed with Lyme disease in 2015 and has been fighting it ever since. When she isn't working on her mother of the year award, you can find her reading, singing, or taking photos.


  1. I agree about the drama! I love using the kids as a reason to excuse myself! LOL!

  2. I don't think I've ever read your little comment idea... really EVERY comment makes your day a little brigher? EVERY. SINGLE. ONE? Wow. And yes, I am obviously an amazing writer.

  3. Oh man. I so agree with you, Hilary, that while moving tends to make everything really wonky for a while, it DOES turn out quite right eventually.

  4. I have never had to move with kids in tow. I can only imagine how hard it is....

  5. I love, love, love being out of the loop with the family drama. Whenever we start hearing about the craziness down in Idaho, my hubby and I look at each other and say, "Family. Isn't it about time... to move to Alaska?"

    Moving is still hard, though, no doubt about it.

  6. There are definitely good and bad things about moving. I agree with Hilary - the ward in Iowa was fantastic. Our family away from home.

  7. We went from Utah Valley to Los Angeles for five wonderful, horrible, tender, strengthening years. It was great!

  8. Oh don't worry, Hilary, you will have drama of your own someday! Funny but true!LOL

  9. Brick Oven? Really?

    I hated my move with a passion. I resisted it the whole time and I wish I didn't in hindsight.

    I do agree that it is great for a marriage.

  10. What an awesome post! It is so true- moving is hard and often, crying in buckets is the price. Moving here to Texas was so scary for me that I cried almost every night and asking hubby if this is something we needed to do. After a while and a great ward, callings and friends, we know that we're supposed to be here for now.

    Thanks, Hilary!

  11. Yes, Anne-Marie and I will wait until you guys are done at Brick Oven and join you afterward.

    Love that Hilary!