Comments on: Ask Your Kids for Good Behavior https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/ purposeful parenting and simplified living Sun, 02 Jul 2023 17:25:35 +0000 hourly 1 By: Jill https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2331 Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:48:23 +0000 #comment-2331 The book looks interesting too!

]]> By: Jill https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2330 Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:46:54 +0000 #comment-2330 Oh that looks fun! Maybe I should get back to our Israel pictures from almost a year ago…

]]> By: Helena https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2329 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 23:45:13 +0000 #comment-2329 It is hard to remember to word things positively!

]]> By: UnseasonablyWarm https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2328 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 05:53:04 +0000 #comment-2328 Great pics! I opened this post and thought: "That's not today! It's January in Michigan! lol" I love the reminders of what we as parents need to do and the ruts we fall in. And yet, at my cousins' daughter's baptism last Saturday (in Surprise), at their house afterwards, when the kids were being nuts, I heard myself say, "Go play out on Greenway Road!" Nice.

]]> By: mCat https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2327 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 01:32:37 +0000 #comment-2327 Years and years ago, Splenda and I went to a marriage conference that talked about these patterns of speech. We started with each other, and it transcended to our boys. Were we perfect? No, but we were aware and made daily efforts to phrase our words in a more positive tone, rather making it a negative interaction

]]> By: Lacy@uphillandsmiling https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2326 Tue, 10 Jan 2012 20:49:54 +0000 #comment-2326 Oh, those pictures are so beautiful right about now.

Thanks for sharing this – it reminds me a lot of Love and Logic Parenting. I need to remember to do it more, because I know it works better and creates more peace in my home — tell them what TO DO. 🙂

]]> By: Mary https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2325 Tue, 10 Jan 2012 17:59:50 +0000 #comment-2325 I never thought about how such a simple statement "Don't leave your backpack on the floor." could be framed in a positive way.

I need to talk to myself like that too!

]]> By: Barbaloot https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2324 Tue, 10 Jan 2012 15:13:01 +0000 #comment-2324 That beach looks amazing right now! I'm ready for the cold to be gone.

]]> By: LisAway https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2323 Tue, 10 Jan 2012 09:40:38 +0000 #comment-2323 I've been working on this one, too. I also threaten a lot more than I encourage. I used to say, every time before I got in the shower, "Aaron, I don't want to hear Spencer scream while I'm in the shower. Don't bug him" etc. I switched to asking him to be in charge of Spence and said, "let's see if he can be happy the whole time I'm showering. Can you help him?" And he does. Every time. I can't believe how often I talk about the kids' negative behaviors instead of ONLY talking about what they can or should do. That is what I learned in school, for goodness sake. I guess it's just so easy to get caught up in everything that's happening and to get tired of all the things the kids do that you don't want them to (like dropping their backpack in the hallway every. single. day. even after being reminded repeatedly…) But you're right. It just takes thinking about it and the home can pretty easily become a more positive place.

Also, on the second picture, before I scrolled all the way down, I totally thought the water was snow.

]]> By: Anne-Marie https://www.overstuffedlife.com/asking-for-good-behavior/#comment-2322 Tue, 10 Jan 2012 05:09:15 +0000 #comment-2322 I really believe that works so much better too. Not that I remember it all the time, but this was a good reminder.

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