Comments on: A safe haven

By: Bear's mom (Life With Two)

Bear's mom (Life With Two) — Tue, 11 Feb 2014 06:13:46 +0000

it's the pms monster that gets me 🙂 I'm working on it! It used to be a lot worse, I'm making progress!
I agree, I want my kids to come to me when they're scared, so I need to keep working on quieting my monster. Wonderful post!

By: Cyndie

Cyndie — Sat, 09 May 2009 05:07:00 +0000

I am far to often the Momster, that’s for sure. What a wonderful analogy!

By: Audrey

Audrey — Wed, 06 May 2009 20:03:00 +0000

I have had “monster mom” moments before. For me the worst part of them was the feeling of almost watching myself from inside my head being out of control angry and thinking “why am I reacting this way” but still not being able to stop myself. Since starting to homeschool my kids these moments have become fewer and further apart. I think it is because with all the time we spend together as a family we start to understand each other better and learn to live with each other in greater harmony. At least that’s how it has evolved for us…

By: Mommy Belle

Mommy Belle — Wed, 06 May 2009 03:15:00 +0000

Thanks so much for the blog entry! It helps make every other mother (me included) out there know we aren’t the only ones losing patience with our children. That was a great analogy to Monsters, Inc. too!

When Annabelle was younger, I do remember one mom making a comment that we sometimes hurt our children’s feelings, but the important thing is that we also teach our children that we aren’t perfect either. She made the comment that just simply saying “I’m sorry” teaches our children that we as adults make mistakes and need to ask for forgiveness as well.

If only I could learn to forgive as quickly as a child!

By: Heidi

Heidi — Wed, 06 May 2009 02:40:00 +0000

What a totally sweet story (but I DO think PMS and low blood sugar is a perfectly good excuse, one your girls will totally understand one day).

By: Maddy

Maddy — Wed, 06 May 2009 00:34:00 +0000

What a great read. I totally need a reminder because I feel like I have been yelling at my kids way too much lately. Thanks for posting this.

By: Chandy

Chandy — Tue, 05 May 2009 21:00:00 +0000

Great reflection Lara. Well said. I too, get impatient and end up yelling which literally stuns them a bit, and the apology road becomes that much more longer and windier, but it’s all worth it and talking afterwards help a lot. Boy, I have a long way to go. 😉

By: Sara

Sara — Tue, 05 May 2009 17:28:00 +0000

Lara,
Our first semester at Union Square was your last (I think).

I’ve been clicking over from Holly Casabar’s blog every so often, and I just read back a few posts and found out that you are moving to Houghton. (Right?)

Anyways, Joe served his mission in Wisconsin and spent many, many (winter) months in Houghton. He is very excited for you and wishes you lots of luck!

Congrats on the new job.
Sara Soelberg
(sarasoelberg[at]yahoo.com — if you have any Houghton questions)

By: Barbaloot

Barbaloot — Tue, 05 May 2009 16:41:00 +0000

The scary thing that came to my mind when you said that, is how Boo runs to the next safest adult. What if the next seemingly safest adult is someone you don’t know? This is a good post for me to remember…I don’t want my kids to ever run to a stranger cuz they’re scared of me.

By: Robyn

Robyn — Tue, 05 May 2009 15:15:00 +0000

Well said, Lara! My little Corbin is really testing me and my resolve right now! An online friend said she remembers not to be “mean” to her toddler when she keeps in mind that he might be a prophet someday, and she wants him to have sweet memories of his mother! I do try to keep in mind the things my kids will remember…