The 15 Best Parenting Books for Raising Girls

As the mother of three daughters, parenting girls is something I constantly worry about.

When they were little, it was one thing, but now that my youngest is 12 and my eldest is already out of the house, I worry about it even more. The things that teenage girls face today are so different than when I was growing up. I want to be sure I’m doing the best I can as a mother of girls and that I am armed with the best information out there.

These 15 books have all gotten great reviews, and while I haven’t made my way through the entire list yet, I have read about half of them. The rest are on my to-read list.

15 Best Books on Raising Girls

Best Parenting Books for Raising Girls

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Top 15 Parenting books for Raising Girls: The Curse of the Good Girl

The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence by Rachel Simmons 

This book had a huge impact on me when I first read it 9 years ago. Author Rachel Simmons argues that the way girls are brought up to be “nice” and people-pleasing actually hinders them from being successful. Breaking out of the good girl mold does not mean that we don’t teach our daughters to be kind, but it does mean we should teach them to express their feelings, learn to be assertive, and stay to true to who they are.

The thing that stayed with me most was that the typical “good girls” are actually the ones who become “mean girls.” There is a better way to teach our daughters to be kind and good and Simmons has lots of great exercises for helping girls do just that.

You can read my original review here: The Curse of the Good Girl Review

15 best parenting books for raising girls—Girls on the Edge

Girls on the Edge: The Four Factors Driving the New Crisis for Girls by Leonard Sax

The first book I read by Leonard Sax was actually his book on raising boys (Boys Adrift). I was unhappy about having to read it for book club since I don’t have sons, but I ended up being fascinated about the research he has done and the conclusions he has drawn. As soon as I learned he wrote a book about raising girls, I bought it and read it.

In it Sax addresses the four factors that are driving the new crisis for girls. They are sexual identity, the cyberbubble, obsessions, and environmental toxins.

He gives practical parenting advice on how to address each issue as you raise your own daughters.

Best books for raising girls—American Girls

American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers by Nancy Jo Sales

I am currently reading this book and it is so eye opening. I have tried to stay highly involved in the social media my daughters are using, but this is taking it to a whole new level. The author, Nancy Jo Sales, has put together research from real girls and the very real things they deal with when it comes to social media.

This book gives an important and complete picture of what our girls are facing with social media today. It also helps parents to know how to best support their daughters and to give them the tools they need to navigate social media and find inner strength and confidence both on the internet and in real life.

Helping your daughter survive cliques, gossip, boyfriends, and the new realities of Girl World

Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World by Rosalind Wiseman

The social structures in “Girl World” are complex and somewhat dizzying for parents to understand yet our daughters are dealing with these social rules every single day. This book is absolutely spot on in its assessment of the social hierarchy and has great advice for parents to teach their daughters how to navigate it.

This book also addresses the mean girl culture better than any other that I have read. Bullying amongst girls is very real and I want to give my daughters as many tools as possible to deal with it. I also want to teach them the skills they need to avoid becoming mean girls themselves.

Top 15 Parenting Books for Raising Girls: Little Girls Can Be Mean

Little Girls Can Be Mean: Four Steps to Bullyproof Girls in the Early Grades by Michelle Anthony and Reyna Lindert

Many of the books on my list focus on the teenager aspect of raising girls, but this one is great for parents of younger girls. Bullying starts early (before Kindergarten!) and this book is a great guide for helping parents and teachers to get rid of bullying tendencies early on. It provides a four step program—observe, connect, guide, support—to help daughters handle these issues every day.

I feel the advice contained in this book definitely helped when one of my daughters was experiencing  bullying by one of her best friends. If you feel that your own daughter might be experiencing bullying, or even that she may be engaging in bullying behavior, this is a must read.

Best books for raising daughters—The Child Whisperer

The Child Whisperer: The Ultimate Handbook for Raising Happy, Successful, Cooperative Children by Carol Tuttle

This book isn’t just about raising girls, but it has helped me immensely in raising mine. Author Carol Tuttle categorizes children into four separate energy types and teaches skills to parent each energy type specific to their needs.

Regarding girls, she does address how culture tends to expect all females to fall into the Type 1 or Type 2 categories, but has difficulty accepting girls who are Type 3 and Type 4. As a Type 4 woman myself who has tried to force myself into a more acceptable Type 2 mold in my lifetime, I totally relate to this.

Tuttle’s advice has helped me to give my own Type 3 and Type 4 daughters exactly what they need to be honored and successful as well as teaching me to know how to best parent my Type 2 daughter.

(You can also learn more about Energy Types here: Live Your Truth)

It all sounds a little crazy reading it here, but this book is definitely one of my favorite parenting resources ever.

Best books for raising girls—You're Wearing That?

You’re Wearing That?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation by Deborah Tannen

We’ve all done it. Made an innocent remark that cause our daughters to get angry, start crying, or run to their rooms and slam the door. This book is on my to-read list because it happens all too often at my house and I am left wondering what on earth I said to provoke such a dramatic reaction.

This book gives solid advice to both mothers and daughters to help them improve their communication with one another and start having conversations that are helpful instead of hurtful.

Best parenting books ever—how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

This is another excellent parenting resource that basically lives on my night table. It is not girl specific but it has made a huge difference as I parent my girls.

One of the biggest mistakes we make as parents is not allowing our children to feel their feelings. We mostly don’t realize we do this as we really are trying our best and want to correct their behavior.

The author gives so many great ways to approach different situations with our children and they work. Sometimes when I am in the middle of an argument with one of my daughters I suddenly realize I am not following the principles outlined in this book. As soon as I do, it’s like magic and my daughter calms down, I calm down, and we are finally able to resolve the situation.

And that’s why it lives on my night table—I need lots of reminders!

Best Parenting Books for Raising Girls—A Father's Guide to Raising Daughters

A Father’s Guide to Raising Daughters: How to Boost Her Self-Esteem, Self-Image, and Self-Respect by Michael T. Wilkinson

While I have been focusing on my relationship with my daughters as their mother, their relationship with their father is just as important.

I have been noticing that my husband has been struggling a bit to know how to deal with our youngest daughter. She is very different than our older two and I want her to have a rock solid relationship with her dad. I researched books on the subject and this one seems to be a clear winner.

The reviews on this book tout it as a great guide for fathers to help raise daughters to be strong and independent.

Best parenting books ever—The Grown Up's Guide to Teenage Humans by Josh Shipp

The Grown Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans: How to Decode Their Behavior, Develop Unshakeable Trust, and Raise a Respectable Adult by Josh Shipp

This is another one of those parenting books that has a permanent place on my nightstand. You may have seen some of Josh Shipp’s parenting videos on Facebook (I particularly like this one) and he is often called the “teen whisperer.” He has a refreshing view on what teens need and how to parent them.

His book addresses many of the issues that girls face today such as eating disorders, social media, boyfriends, cliques, and more. I like that it is organized as more of a reference book so you can easily look up the issue that you are interested in and read up on it.

Top Parenting Books—Bringing Up Girls by James Dobson

Bringing Up Girls: Practical Advice and Encouragement for Those Shaping the Next Generation of Women by Dr. James Dobson

Dr. Dobson has a more old fashioned conservative approach to parenting, but I enjoy reading his parenting articles and most recently read his book The New Strong-Willed Child. I think his advice is super practical and applicable. He is long winded and likes to use lots of studies and statistics in his writing, so if you like those sorts of examples, you will probably get more out of this book.

In this book, Dobson lists 7 things parents should be doing with their daughters in order to shape their lives. According to reviews, these 7 things are easy to apply and people have found success with them.

The 15 Best Parenting Books for Raising Girls—Enough As She Is by Rachel Simmons

Enough As She Is: How to Help Girls Move Beyond Impossible Standards of Success to Live Healthy, Happy, and Fulfilling Lives by Rachel Simmons  

Because I loved Simmons’ The Curse of the Good Girl so much (see first item in this book list), I am looking forward to also reading this book. I love the idea of teaching my girls that they are truly enough as they are and that they do not have to define their life’s success by anyone’s measure but their own.

Simmons uses her typical in-depth case studies to show parents how to help their girls deal with negative feelings, be more authentic, embrace risk, and learn how to feel confident and happy.

Good parenting books to read on raising girls — Untangled by Lisa Damour

Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood by Lisa Damour

I have not read this book, but I am intrigued by the idea of these seven transitions into adulthood.

They are: 1) Parting with childhood, 2) Joining a new tribe, 3) Harnessing emotions, 4) Contending with adult authority, 5) Planning for the future, 6) Entering the romantic world, and 7) Caring for herself.

It seems important to understand how these transitions work in our daughters. However, based on some of the reviews it seems that religious people like myself may not love everything Damour has to say. I am still interested in her research of these transitions into adulthood, though.

Best books for raising girls—The myth of the perfect girl

The Myth of the Perfect Girl: Helping Our Daughters Find Authentic Success and Happiness in School and Life by Ana Homayoun

This book delves into the stress girls feel to be perfect in every aspect of their lives. According to reviews it is “insightful” and has “lots of great tips for helping teems who are overwhelmed and overbooked with life in general.”

I know I felt this way as a teenager, but I see my daughters feeling it even more. It is harder than ever to get into a good college and teens are so overbooked and stretched way too thin. I am eager to find out what Homayoun’s tips are for helping girls in this situation.

The Conscious Parent’s Guide to Raising Girls: A Mindful Approach to Raising a Strong, Confident Daughter by Erika V. Shearin Karres

According to reviews, this looks like a good book for parents of elementary school aged girls especially.

The information is similar to many other books I have listed and promises to help your daughter learn to deal with cliques and bullying, help improve communication with your daughter, help your daughter learn to resist peer pressure, and help you to build an emotionally healthy relationship with her.

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