I get pretty cranky with my kids around bedtime. I have even been known to tell them that I can't be a mom after 9:00 pm because I'm off duty. Some days are worse than others, and I think I've finally figured out why.
Sometimes I'm just too depleted to be a mom.
I like to think that I have a "Mom Account." And each thing I do throughout the day counts as either a deposit or a withdrawal into that account. That's why some bedtimes are so much harder than others—my account sometimes gets overdrawn, and then my kids don't get the best of me (or any of me at all).
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How full my account is depends on the choices I make.
This afternoon I had to drive my daughter to her orthodontist appointment. That may not sound like a very big deal, but our orthodontist is a two hour drive each way. For obvious reasons, I make these appointments on my days off of work, and then I get really resentful that I have to spend almost an entire day devoted to the bleeping orthodontist when I could be getting so much done at home.