On the particular morning I am thinking of, she didn't want to brush her teeth. She was in full blown meltdown mode—if you have a 4th grade daughter, perhaps you are familiar with it—which meant she wasn't listening, she wasn't being reasonable, and she was crying. A lot.
I couldn't take it anymore and I snapped. I yelled at her to get herself into the bathroom and brush her teeth and to stop throwing a fit. Needless to say, my yelling did nothing to help the situation—all I did was exacerbate it.
Funny enough, this post is not about how to deal with tantruming children without melting down yourself.
This post is about how to prevent the tantrums in the first place.
And when I say tantrums, I mean tantrums of both the child and adult variety.